What should you tell your boss?

Some of the same considerations as outlined in the section on colleagues also apply to your boss.

On the one hand you are not obliged to say what's wrong with you. On the other, your boss probably already knows that something's wrong.

But there is a difference between your colleagues and your boss in that your boss is very keen that you should perform well at work. If you have not been doing so for some time, it is generally best that you explain why. At the same time you will be enlisting the best type of support - your boss knows that you are normally a good and energetic worker. He or she knows your strengths.

It is easier when:

• You tell things as they are
• You avoid excuses or unrealistic promises
• You stick to the facts
• You watch out for negative social comparisons
• You view your illness as a temporary state of affairs that will pass!

You are in a vulnerable position and should therefore be careful to ensure that your vulnerability is not confused with reality:

• Even if you feel inadequate, you are not inadequate!
• Even if you expect to be punished and criticised, this won't necessarily be the case. Don't pave the way for criticism with statements such as "I'm not good enough - I can't do anything right!"
• You may feel that you don't have the right to be tired and less energetic than normal, but tiredness and a loss of energy are symptoms of your illness. So you can't expect to be able to do as much as fit and healthy people!
• Finally, remember that bad and unfortunate things that happen are not your fault!