Do you have negative thoughts about sex?
It's easy to think negatively about things when you are depressed. You may also have thoughts that stop you from enjoying sex:
- Do you worry about not being physically attractive?
- Do you think that you are repulsive in some way?
- Do you have catastrophic thoughts about terrible things that will happen if you engage in sexual relations?
Delusions
Both men and women can misunderstand decreased sexual performance.
Here are some common negative and automatic thoughts about sex during the sexual act itself:
- I'm not sexy enough
- I can't satisfy my partner
- I feel awful but I don't dare say so
- You're coming on too strong, I'm not enjoying it at all
- I need to pretend that I'm enjoying it
- I need to give him an orgasm. But I have to pretend that I've come first
- I'm only doing it because I have to
- It's just not worth it
- I can't wait for it to end