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Dear Cristina,
You are open to good experiences and changes.

Be aware that body-image is often confused with self-image.You can love your self even though your body image is not your ideal. Your self image must not be affected by superficial oter things, because it is composed of unseen qualities.

You are so much more than your body. You are soul. Know this.

You cannot loose weight if you hate your body or are angry at your body. You must NOT think you are TOO much or not enough.

Visualize yourself as you want to be.
When you see a pretty female you must admire her and never compare yourself or think "what a bitch".

You must rejoice in seeing beauty in all things. You must have beauty in your eyes and mind when looking.

If beauty brings about positive feelings in you when you see it instead of jealousy, then it is yours to have.

I was over weight. I am not athletic. I am not filling you with B.S. Your mind controls your body, not the other way around.

Of course you must find an exercise that you enjoy to be inspired to find the motivation. I admire you going to the gym (I have agoraphobia...)..

You really could just get the little blue book,
"heal your body" and "love your body".
They will give you the mental tools to help you as you already have the gym membership, and sneakers by now (i hope)...

Sending you my love. Just turn up the music in your room and dance untill you sweat girl!!

LOve from Image

Written by image, 8. Sep 2004 10:31 PM

image is right. you must love yourself before you can change yourself.

wanting to lose weight is a great thing to want, but very hard to achieve unless you have the motivation. no one else can give you the motivation cristina, only you can provide this. if you really want the weight to come off then the motivation will be there. it is not an easy task, i really feel for you because i want it too. but i have realized no one but me can provide the motivation.

love yourself and recognize the good qualities in yourself rather than analyzing the qualities which you think are not so good. you have many talents and many special feelings and thoughts cristina, do not focus on aspects of yourself in a negative manner. focus on the positive and when you start to feel good about who you currently are then you will be able to change other things about yourself - who knows, once you learn to like yourself, those things may not matter anymore :)

take care sweetie : )

Written by the_flirty_1, 8. Sep 2004 10:54 PM

Hey Miss I Am Going to Lose Some Weight......

First and foremost chick, I hope that you continue to go to the gym and work out. It helps so much with everything that goes along with depression. I am working out right now every night because I am going thru some ordeals at this time. But it makes me feel better and I do not lay around as much. This does take some time. Hey we did not gain all of this weight over night ya know. :0)

The motivation is this for me, I do not want to be alone and un-healthy the rest of my life. I have wasted so much of my life looking HUGE. There is so much time gone and I hate it. You also can go home and eat those bowls of spaghetti after you work out. That is sooooo okay. Hey that just makes the workout tomorrow a lil bit longer. Do not deprive yourself of food. Now that is not healthy. If your hungry then eat it. But staying on the go with working out, I promise will make some of the depression subside. You can take tips from others but really it comes down to you. And this is not hard, just getting thru the first week will be the trial and then it is all good after that.

Hey I wish you luck and the next time that you go to eat that bowl of food.....enjoy it! As long as you continue to work, there isn't a problem.

smiles and hugs :0)

Written by sweets29, 9. Sep 2004 11:17 AM

Hi Christina.. welcome to my world.. if you get any GOOD ways of getting rid of weight please let me know too.

Take care... Phil

Written by PhilC, 9. Sep 2004 07:47 PM

Dear Christina,

You know that all the posts were right... I think the best way for you to lose weight is to remember something that I have thought of you for a very, very long time... you are BEAUTIFUL!

Beauty on the surface is superficial and dull without that deeper soulful beauty. And the moment you see that inside you are absolutely gorgeous then you will be able to change your external shape... but then it won't be so important either!

Please keep going to the gym, even if you do nothing else, as it is good to get out and exercise has been proven to be almost, if not better say some experts, as good as anti-depressents. If you can work your exercises routines up slowly so you are doing more intense work such as aerobics classes or time on the treadmill etc. Just try to work up to really making yourself work... it helps to forget about everything else and I feel better about myself afterwards... Sort of like I conquered something.

But please, please, please remember one very important thing... YOU ARE GORGEOUS!

Love,
Shane :-)

Written by NSWBodhi, 12. Sep 2004 12:20 PM