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Written by cristina 2. Aug 2004 02:25 AM

alot of the posts ive read in my entries and other entries are very philisophical and have made me realise how talented and creative everyone is on this site. ive read so many brilliant notions about life, love and relationships, so many thoughts-of-the-days, so much handy advice and so many intellectual comments. i think in a way this site is for most of us to release the inner talents that we posess whatever they may be, and for many of us, writing is one of these talents. for me, i used to consider myself an excellent writer, but now i feel that my writing at 11 years old was better than now. now i have no talent, but in a way i think, i hope, im evoking some talent by just writing these entries. i hope.

my father returned early from his little "holiday". we're on brief speaking terms. he feels guilty about what he did i can tell because he bought me a mirror for my room. no gift will compensate for what happened last week. i was mentally and emotionally drained, not to mention physically harmed, so how dare he buy me this gift and simply assume that everything is dandy- its not.

i didnt join the gym today (suprise, suprise) and i think my putting it off represents my inability to break away from this stage. im still stuck in a rut, and the day i actually join the gym will be the day that i take one foot out.

my entries are so fluctuating.. so different each time, but i guess thats how my life is. rocky, uneasy, barely calm. its like a big black boat on choppy waters, not knowing when it will reach golden land. metaphorically speaking.

ive been doing a lot of basic homework lately, and avoiding major projects. its like my life. ive been taking basic steps, and avoiding the major issues. a lot of the simple things in my life are actually representing how i feel. for instance, many photos that i have seen of myself from friends' parties are absolutely hideous and i actually see myself as uglier than i imagined. its a sequential pattern- literally every photo has been very ugly. my facial expressions are hideous; i consider myself to be the ugliest girl at my school. i think i literally am. how horrible! anyway these "ugly" pictures represent my insecurity and "ugly" stage at the moment to which everything seems ugly in my perspective... myself, my family, my life etc etc.

another comparison with simplicity to the "big picture" is my habits lately. very slow, very lazy, very sad. thats my life. slow, lazy, sad. it seems to go slow but really time is racing by and im forgetting that its raced by and thus continuing with my slow process. today i did nothing, just moped around, eating and doing homework and by the time id actually opened my eyes it was night time and id forgotten all the little details of the day. thats my life- waking up to myself too late. im scared that when i do break out of this terrifying stage that it'll be too late to do anything and i'll just sink right back into it. im really scared of that. life is in my grasp yet i feel i have no control over it. i just want to scream and scream and scream and wake up to myself! come on cristina WAKE UP!

there was a hint of postivity in one of my past entries before the little "violence" episode. i was waking up, and then all this shit had to viciously deprive me of even that benefit. why the am i so unlucky in life?

mum is really on edge about everything at the moment and i feel so sorry for her as if i should be helping her in some way. i know im younger, but still i love her dearly and i cant offer anything but bitter comments. im a terrible daughter. i want to go hug her now but she won't let me.

no word from renee. im still waiting.

no signs of healing, im still hoping.

signing out,

cristina.

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Comments from the community:

Dear Christina,

I have no wise words of wisdom nor any no deep philosophical syllogisms to illuminate your pain... But what I can offer you is my support and love. Everytime I read one of your posts I see the strength you have within you to beat this part of your life and develop into everything you ever wanted to be. I can see you breaking out of this rut and building a new and better future... I see you flourishing!

So please accept all the support I can send you. You are not alone because, even though we are an indefinite distance apart, I am there with you giving you everything I can to help...

Love,
Shane :-)

Written by NSWBodhi, 2. Aug 2004 10:44 AM

Dearest Cristina,
Thankyou for the post you left me. I truly care about you. I wish I could sit with you for half an hour. I wish I could do something real to make you see how beautiful you are. I feel sad that you can't see the gorgeous girl that we see. How can anyone so emotionally beautiful be in any way ugly. I do not believe you are ugly. Stop comparing yourself to people and accept who you are. If you hate all the photo's of you now, then go back and find a baby photo, and tell me that you are ugly.... You will not be able to, because we are all born perfect and beautiful. Take this picture and love that little girl, soon enough you will be able to identify the beauty that stands before the mirror.
I take no credit for the things I write, The things I write come through me not from me. I get an idea and my heart beats fast and it is a divine moment from god or whoever. I am just the vehicle of that expression. Anyone is open to the universal mind and love.
Also I think that your Dad buying you a mirror is him affirming that you are beautiful and that is no co-incidence. What you see in me and in others is only a reflection of your own talents. Cristina I wish I could make you see, your truly beautiful and inspiring and we love you here.
I hope I haven't upset you. Love from Image xxxx00000xxxxx

Written by Anonymous, 2. Aug 2004 04:38 PM

Dearest Cristina,
Thankyou for saying I will go far..... I have agoraphobia and it is a huge effort to get out the front door.... I feel like there is a neon sign blarring above my head, advertising my pain and fear.
Yesterday I went shopping for the first time in a month. I took you all with me for strength. I made it, I had no panic attacks. I couldn't stand at the counter though. Maybe next time...
I don't know when I will leave the house again.. No plans today...
Thanks again Cristina... Thinking of you, sending my love.
Love from Image XXXX00000XXXXX

Written by Anonymous, 2. Aug 2004 05:08 PM

cristina,

I don't know how old you are but I can relate to some of the things you say at times. I remember feeling really unconfident about myself and lack of motivation to do anything, sometimes I still feel that way a little.

I don't know if my suggestions will be of any use to you but I think you should try to express yourself somehow. I know these diaries help but also find some way in the real world. Maybe do some artwork...or better yet try to do something to relax yourself as you're obviously very mentally stressed. I think doing something like Yoga or meditation may help. Just gentle breathing exercises. It works for me, it may work for you too.

It also helps to get a good nights rest. Try avoid sleeping pills or any of that sort of thing as they can make you drowsy throughout the day. Instead maybe drink some warm milk before going to bed.

Like Shane I would also like to send my support to you and hope that you'll feel better soon. Take care.

a-Leng

Written by a-Leng, 2. Aug 2004 05:09 PM