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Written by cristina 26. Jul 2004 09:23 PM

dear renee,

remember how we said we'd hav that little refuge thing? well this is my refuge. my only refuge.

i was hit about 1 hour ago by him. A.I. commonly known as dad though that word makes me want to vomit. i was standing on the kitchen on the phone when he came in yelling at michelle to do work. i got off the phone and michelle walked off screaming abuse. he yelled at me to do it using his most vulgar language and i yelled back, telling him that michelle should help me to. he charged at me, banged me into the sink, threw me accross the kitchen floor where i helplessly stumbled upwards before punching his disgusting fists into my head at least 5 times before then pushing me roughly back to the sink and hitting me over the head. i was gasping and crying and he walked out. i did the dishes, my sobs so silent but so heatrending. when i was finsihed i ran to the shower, turned it full blast, grabbed my broken mirror and began slicing the flesh on my wrists and crying so hard and wishing i was dead. the blood was running uncontrolably into the drain renee i was hurting so bad all i could think was "i dont want to be here anymore, its time for me to go, i know it is, its time for me to leave forever and ever and ever" and the blood was pouring out and i was crying so hard and no one was there to save me and then i saw ur face and sarah's and mum's and i stopped and i lay on the shower floor crying and bleeding so deeply; all the wounds emanating from inside more than out and i just lay there unable to move , crying so hard, just crying and crying and crying and crying and no one was there , no one, no one at all and i couldnt speak to anyone and no one could speak to me because ive left everyone and i just cant live under this roof anymore i cant i cant i cant i cant stand the abuse or the pain or the turmoil or the loneliness and i cant go to school and i dont want to be one of ur sterotypical depressed friends i dont want to even be ur friend anymore because we're not and u deserve better anyway i just want to leave forever because i hav to leave i hav to go because i cant live this life no more. i thought this would never happen to me but deep down its always been there and ive always sensed it i always told u i cant see a future for myself but i was never truthful i am now i wouldnt want anyone to cry, i would just want the people who hurt me everyday to feel the pain back. to feel it through their body. and then that would be all, that's where it would end. i would be satisfied.

i sit at this keyboard my wrists bandanged, alone in this house, crying as i type, but typing all the same and i think that a life like urs should never be taken for granted and that should treasure each and every moment, value ur family, friends and memories. always. there's nothing i can change in this world; i will always be to everyone at school just a person who suddenly got quiet this year no one bothers to ask why or whats rong everyone puts their problems on my shoulders i answer i give support and all the while im dying inside because no one listens to me and i try to tell people but no one can cope so why can i cope with their troubles? my mum doesnt want to listen to me, she hates listening to me being depressed, why am i dying? why am i dying? you dont want to listen to me because u have ur own troubles i have my own troubles im so greedy and selfish i want everyone to listen to me because they never have, only u of course and i dont want u to think this is a cry of help this is just my refuge my lonely refuge

im out of reach

im sorry renee im sorry im sorry im sorry

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my mum came home. i went to her, ready to tell her. but i couldnt. i knew the words wouldnt come out once i tried. so i merely told her that her favourite tv show was on. i am a coward. but she wouldnt care anyway.
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flesh on cheeks burning from salty tears, body aching from rough blows, wrists stinging from deep cuts, heart broken from miserable pain.

its time to go now.

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Comments from the community:

Christina...

Don't go! Don't follow a path that'll lead to your destruction... please don't!

I have little hope that I can offer you other than my continued support, and I'm sure the support of everyone here, but I know that isn't much help when you are being beaten... I wish I could suggest some way to stop it... But pleast don't go... Please go and see a doctor, or go to hospital but please don't go.

You'll always have someone who'll "listen"... through this very site. ALWAYS!

Shane

Written by NSWBodhi, 27. Jul 2004 12:06 AM

Christina I am pretty new to this site. Have been reading the stories and struggles of others for a few weeks but have not had the guts to say anything yet about myself or in response to others. When I read your entry tonight though I just knew I had to say something to you, a complete stranger to try give you some advice.

I feel so much for you, I really do. Has your dad abused you before? Have you talked to anyone about it? Why oh why couldnt you bring yourself to tell your mum tonight? You are just 15, really still in your childhood, how your dad could want to robb you of your happiness is beyond me, and something I will never comprehend. I have read some of your diary entires (will read them all but wanted to reply to this quickly). From reading the way you write I can tell you are a intelligent, caring, compassionate. When I checked your age after reading some of your stuff I couldnt believe all those very mature, intellegent thoughts came from someone so young. You have that on your side you know.

Life can be very confusing when abuse is involved I bet. You're probably disorientated and dont know what the world has to offer outside the walls of your current existance. It DOES have alot more to offer than what you are currently being dished out! Please hang in there, if you can be strong enough to get through this period of your life you will become a stroner person for it. I bet when your a bit older and have a life of your own, in your own place, your own space, away from abuse you will be happy. Life aint over for you yet, its only just begun, and you have just been unfortunate to get a rocky start.

please see 2nd half of message, couldnt fit it all on!...............

Written by rondi, 27. Jul 2004 01:35 AM

cont.....
Please dont hurt yourself anymore, physically or emotionally, it seems you are getting enought of that from your family and your dont deserve it, nobody does. Be kind to yourself. Seek help, there are places for kids your age to go for help. If your not sure where to go, how about you let me know and I'll look into it for you. People at such places will care for you, its just a matter of making first contact. I feel so much for you. Theres one big thing you should always remember to help you get through the pain of what happened to you tonight....its your dad who has a problem, not you!

Please take care. Lots of love from a complete stranger ! (My name is Rhonda)
xxxxxx

Written by rondi, 27. Jul 2004 01:37 AM

One more thing I have to ask. (Sorry I have become upset and angry about what happened to you tonight I cant think of anything else).
Did your mum not notice that your face had been hit and your wrists had been cut? If she didnt notice tonight, make sure she notices tomorrow. Promise?

Written by rondi, 27. Jul 2004 02:04 AM

"Bless you Rondi" & "bless you Cristina".

Cristina i don't know what state you live in the number might be different, but "Life Line" is a wonderful support,it operates 24 hours 131114 you can find them listed in the frount of the telephone book under health & help.

"Please" speak to someone about what is happening to you,i understand you must be feeling so scared & alone,but there is help & support avalible,"please reach out","never feel ashamend","it's not your fault" what is happening to you. My thoughts are with you.

"I seend my love,support & strength"

Written by Anonymous, 27. Jul 2004 02:22 AM

Dear Cristina...I am so sorry for the pain you have endured...your posting has brought me to tears...I beg of you to please seek outside support immediately...do it for you Cristina and nobody else...hasn't anybody even noticed your bandaged writs?...your father is a very aggressive and out of control person who doesn't deserve to have such a beautiful caring daughter...please take the advice you get from your fellow deppies...I can see a very damaging pattern emerging for you if you stay in your current situation...your life is at risk Cristina...any caring parent of your friends would take you in during your current crisis...don't wait around to see what happens next...take your personal belongings and flee for your safety first...then you can phone your mother and make sure she hears what you have to say...is she even away of the disgusting treatment your father dished out during his fit of rage?...CHRISTINA...THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR WHAT HE HAS DONE TO YOU...YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG TO DESERVE THIS...PLEASE KEEP IN TOUCH WITH DEPNET...PLEASE...

Written by Anonymous, 27. Jul 2004 01:38 PM

Cristina you were on my mind at the we small hours of this morning, i hope your are safe.
My thoughts are with you.

" I seend my love & support"

Written by Anonymous, 27. Jul 2004 03:57 PM

Hello again Christina,
I have been thinking alot about you. Please take what blackdogblu says VERY VERY serioulsly. Read it all again and take it all in, you must start to realise you need to gather all your strength together right now and get help. I agree with blackdogble that you cannot wait till tomorrow, you must do it now. Sorry I know it must be so hard. You may not see it right now, but there are people there who will help you. Your freinds parents may be a good start.
Please let us know how you go. Even if you're still not sure if you can do it, let us know that too, mabye we can help you through it?
Love Rhonda xxx

Written by rondi, 27. Jul 2004 08:08 PM

Cristina...thinking of you...sending my strength your way...take care darl...

Written by Anonymous, 27. Jul 2004 08:40 PM

Hey Christina,
We havnt heard back from you. We would really like to know you're ok. Please let us know how you're going.
We are concerned and care for you.
Lots of love xxxxxxx

Written by rondi, 29. Jul 2004 12:25 AM

I hope you are in your refuge, your sanctuary of peace. I hope you have found the strength you have inside you to speak up or yell and scream, whatever it takes- for your basic human rights, and rights as a child. A baby will scream until it's needs are met, life and people stifle and utter the cries, until we no-longer even moan. You are such a beautiful, articulate, gifted, teenager and there is help available to you. Ask for the help, even if you whisper. Ask and you will recieve.
You are strong and you can make it. Rest and renew your energy.
Gather your strength and leave the abuse behind you. We care about you very much, your friends at Dep Net.

Written by Anonymous, 29. Jul 2004 02:45 AM

I hope you are in your refuge, your sanctuary of peace. I hope you have found the strength you have inside you to speak up or yell and scream, whatever it takes- for your basic human rights, and rights as a child. A baby will scream until it's needs are met, life and people stifle and muffle the cries, until we no-longer even moan. You are such a beautiful, articulate, gifted, teenager and there is help available to you. Ask for the help, even if you whisper. Ask and you will recieve.
You are strong and you can make it. Rest and renew your energy.
Gather your strength and leave the abuse behind you. We care about you very much, your friends at Dep Net.

Written by Anonymous, 29. Jul 2004 02:47 AM

Cristina, i know we havent spoken in a while but i want you to know that to me you are so important, your words, your mind, i wish that you could understand that you are a wonderful person with so much to offer.

you are only young, there is so much opportunity for you.

let me share with you this. My best friend's brother had a best friend in high school. They were heaps close and same as you, one year he started to get quieter but no one really noticed heaps because his friends thought he was stressed about his school work as they were heading into their later years of schooling, year 10. Anyway, out of the blue, he committed suicide. He hung himself and his dad found him in his bedroom. He was nearly 17. His friends were so upset and it has and will affect them for the rest of their life. His dad was also so distraught because no one had any idea that he was going to do this to himself. No one could understand why. But the thing is, people DO care about you and sometimes they dont understand just how much you are hurting because they dont want to believe it. Stuff like that doesnt ever happen to people they know.

You need to talk to someone, because hurting yourself hurts many people around you because even though it may not seem like it, people DO care. You need to talk to someone, you need to keep your head above water. You dont really want to end up dead. Once you're gone you can never ever come back. Things may seem tough in your life right now, but what about in 10 years time? or not even that far away.

Written by the_flirty_1, 29. Jul 2004 02:27 PM

Please go and talk to someone sweetie, I believe in you and I dont want to see your whole life go to waste because you have so much to offer and you can make so many people happy. If you can overcome this, you can also help people in the same situation as you. Your advice to us would be exactly the same as we're giving you. You wouldn't recommend anyone else to hurt themselves and I know your situation is bad, but our situations aren't rosy either and we KNOW what you are going through. At the moment your vision is clouded and you need help making decisions.

Hang in there sweetie, please if you want to email me, my inbox is waiting.... Don't do anything rash. Please seek help

Written by the_flirty_1, 29. Jul 2004 02:28 PM

you're entry has worried me a lot.
I hope you haven't hurt yourself cristina. despite what you believe you have made an impact on many people here at depnet. that has to count for something right?

Gonna be thinking of you, if you're reading these comments please send me an email or write a line in your diary saying you are ok to stop people from worrying!

Written by the_flirty_1, 29. Jul 2004 02:30 PM

Dearest Cristina,
Words cannot express my heartfelt compassion and empathy for you. Please believe that good can come out of this, you can start anew, with loving people in a safe place. Dear God and the Angels please watch over and protect this precious child.

Written by Anonymous, 29. Jul 2004 03:26 PM

Christina,
I am hoping the only reason we havnt heard back from you is because you are taking some time to breathe and to gather your thoughts and strength, after all we have said to you.

I really hope its not because we have put too much pressure on you or confused you in any way.

I wont contact you here again unless we hear from you first. But please know the only reason for that is because I am thinking you may want some space and mabye dont have the energy right now to keep hearing from me/us.

Hopefully when you're ready you'll tell us how you are.
Either way, please take care of number 1.
Love and best wishes. My thoughts are still with you.

Written by rondi, 30. Jul 2004 01:01 AM