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Written by dewdrop 8. Jul 2008 12:33 PM

I worked yesterday, 7am till 5pm. Was meant to work till 6pm but thankfuly the father came home early. I was all the other side of the city and knew traffic was bad so i stopped by my Aunties house, as i am rarely over that side of town any more so i like to pop in once in a while.

Enjoyed seeing my relatives, was feeling so sad saying what ive been up to lately.

Drove home without any hassle on the roads thank goodness i waited past the peak hour.

Moment i stood into my house i was overcome with huge rage. Had a fight with hubby and i just kept going and going and going. Once we stopped fighting i just couldnt shake the anger inside of me, decided to go to bed then.

Hopped into bed then i just couldnt stop crying.

I hate being so angry, i cant control it. It's spilling out to my kids and i dont want to be like that i hate it so much that it makes me feel worse. Lately ive been telling my kids to leave the room so i dont go ape at them.

I grew up with being belted by the belt, and smacked most of my week.

I despise my parents for being like that and here i am mirroring their behaviour.

Feel totaly drained Today, no substance to my soul Today. Miserable as anything, still taking in the after effects of my moods lastnight.

My gorgeous little man this morning woke up and dressed himself all by himself. So cute how proud he was. Even more cute that he saw my bottle of nail polish and wanted to be the same as mummy.

Love my kids to bits, it breaks my heart every time i cant control my emotions around them.

I want out of this nightmare. Please wake me up now!

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Comments from the community:

Hi Dewdrop

I'm guessing you were probably so tired after such a long day yesterday at work, then a long drive home, it's no wonder you were feeling angry when you got home. Unfortunately, when we feel like this, it is often the people closest to us that cop it.

Are you taking any medication? If not, it might be worth talking to the GP or a good naturopath. There are lots of alternatives (herbal) out there to help with feelings of anger and irritability.

Your children sound just gorgeous, as does your hubby. But if you don't feel 'right' inside, please take a moment before you walk in the door after work to decompress and let those angry, frustrated feelings go. Sometimes, even just calling into the local shops on the way home is enough to break it up, before you get home.

Anyway love, i'm raving on a bit - lol :-).

Take care and I hope you feel better soon.

Love dolly x

Written by Deleted_User, 8. Jul 2008 02:46 PM

Dew

You are not well because of working nearly 12 hours - that is a long time to work if you aren't used to it, because you had a fight with hubby and have cried all night.

I am glad your son got himself dressed and you are right it is important it doesn't start affecting the kids. Remember Dr Phil's advice, don't fight in front of the kids - the take it on.

Get things sorted out with hubby and hopefully things will be better for you. There is always tomorrow - it can be better for you.

Go Dew!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 8. Jul 2008 06:43 PM

Dewdrop,

What a long day for a working Mum. It all takes it's toll over a period of time and I find that I can get angry with my kids when I am just exhausted and want some time out.

We Mums do not get to relax and unwind and have to keep plodding along regardless of whether we are sick or tired, as who else will make sure the house is clean, clothes are washed and kids are fed?

You had a day where you were angry at everyone, but today is another day and you can make changes to help get your through. I have apologised to my kids before and explained why I got angry, and the way I handled it was not the best and that helped them and myself to understand it was not because of them, it was my issue.

Yes they say we should not fight in front of kids or get angry like that, but hey we are human and try our best with our kids.

Be honest with your kids and hubby so they do not start to blame themselves. Letting your family know where you are at is instilling important emotional maturity in their lives and the more open you are with your family (albeit not too indepth for the kids but enough for them to feel secure) the easier it is for your loved ones to understand wher you are coming from and to be able to give you the support you need.

The old saying, if you do not tell, they do not know. This is from experience with my husband. If I had not told him what I was going through, he would not have been able to help and may have made things worse.

Stay strong and believe in yourself.

Written by Mumof2, 9. Jul 2008 12:58 PM

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