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Written by dewdrop 22. Jun 2008 11:40 PM

First time on depnet.

Lifes had a major change of direction for me.

I've just recently accepted that ive had a lot of stress for last 4 or so years. And after the last weeks events, i admit its not just stress, (gee this is actualy hard) I think, no i know i am depressed.

Always been a emotional person, always had moods of being depressed that i just fob off with a shrug when my hubby asks why i am sad.

Have taken anti dep a few times in my life but once i feel ok i stop.

so yep i admit it. Still cant fully say it (wierd). But i know my actions speak it loud and clear.

I am studying atm, noticed how stressed i am when i know my notes off by heart then 5 mins later i know nadda. Failed quite a few exams already. Am doing a external yet ive not touched it. I asked for help, stepping out admiting i cant handle everything. But got back a shit reply that i have plenty of time.

Times running out fast, i held out my hand and it got slapped away. I am meant to be handing in a assignment tomorrow for my external. Have i done it? nope. Did i ring up asking for extension? nope. why? no friggen idea.

Making a simple phonecall is too hard. I have my letter refferal to a psych thats taken me over a week to make that phonecall too.

All i want to do is curl up in a ball and stare into space the day away.

The only thing that gets me physicaly moving is that i have 2 toddlers, a part time and part time school. I can make myself do those things, attend classes but anything including my externals i just cant move to do those things.

All i want is a great big hug from my mum, i guess thats what got me past my sad moments all these years. Dont have mum no more. She died 2 years ago. Gone through many frustrated moments there and sad moments.

Lifes a friggen mess, and i am admitting i have depression and reaching out for help in order to gain some control over my life.

I feel like me inside a paper bag or something. Can hear the outside world, can feel the outside world but no strength to make a tear in the bag yet.

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Comments from the community:

hi dewdrop,
welcome to depnet...you will get help, understanding and friendship here, so you've come to the right place.

Sounds like you are going thru quite alot at the moment. Grieving the loss of your Mum for starters. Then having two toddlers and a husband to take care of and run a household and you're also trying to study?

Maybe and this is only a suggestion, it might be a good idea to drop the external studies for now, coz it seems that now... really isnt the right time for you.

I recently started back at work nursing coz I thought I was ready, but I packed it in after two nights, coz I just couldnt cope with it emotionally. I too am going thru a grieving stage (marriage breakup) and also have a baby to take care of.

I think sometimes we expect too much of ourselves and this overwhelms us and leads to De-pression. Taking on too much isnt good for anyone. We just end up getting burnt out.

I am very happy with the choice I made to quit going back to work at this point in time, but it doesnt mean I cant in the future when Im a bit stronger.

I wish you all the best and hope I have helped you some and again welcome to our community. Look forward to getting to know you.

Take Care of You,

kind regards

Written by cherry1, 23. Jun 2008 12:45 AM

Hi there dewdrop! Welcome to depnet.

Seems to me that this could be the first step towards recovery. There are some lovely people here who will support you, pitch in a few ideas, encourage you not to give up when it feels as though there's no other way, and extend love to you that's pretty much unconditional - and best of all, it comes from those of us who've been there, are there or are on the way out of it!

If I could sit with you awhile, and offer you a big old hug to help make things better, I surely would.

Know that this is a safe enough space to let it rip and tell it like it is, anonymously, or if you want to connect a litte more personally, there's room for that too.

I look forward to getting to know you a bit.

Be corageous. Do the things you know you need to do. Sing out when it gets too hard.

:)

g463

Written by g463, 23. Jun 2008 01:03 AM

Dewdrop

Welcome to depnet... depression takes your will and it is hard to motivate as you well know... it also affects the way we communicate... perhaps when you reached out for help.. it wasn't understood... depression can make you appear defensive and ppl misunderstand this... perhaps you can try to reframe your requests for help so that they understand you are in desperate need of help now... that is just a suggestion... i know it is hard to do... also check your motivation for study... that will affect your motivation... the past failures might also be affecting your perception of study... you said you had not done well... help with the psych is good... you will find the energy for your kids... you just need to find the energy for you... you are important too...

take care

rgds
cate

Written by cateblack, 23. Jun 2008 12:02 PM

This site may help but you should also get personal, professional help because you probably need medication.

Written by TerryN, 23. Jun 2008 07:36 PM