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Written by grannie 11. Oct 2008 03:18 PM

It is time now for me to really face the realities of my life.Life right now is settled and I feel at peace with myself.But I have this fear that I wont be around for much longer, No Im not planning any thing stupid,I have some health issues mainly old age stuff,that are causing some concern.So how do I get my family to accept the future with out pain and sadness.This is the biggest issue,I saw the pain when thier Dad pssed and I dont want them to go through the same again.I have made it very clear that if I was never able to make my own choices due to illness that I dont want medical stuff forced on me.I have had the ups and downs of life and have a wonderful family with all the disfuctions they have.This issue is just sort of playing on my mind, maybe airing it here will help. TC ALL

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Grannie

i think what you are talking about is sensible and thoughtful... talking to the whole family ... a conference about the future... put it in writing what you want ... i think it is called a living will... also while it is sad it helps the family afterwards to know that they are acting according to your wishes... and they know they have done everything they can do... and should have no regrets about anything...

I think you are very wise in discussing this now while you can...

take care

rgds
cate

Written by cateblack, 11. Oct 2008 03:50 PM

Grannie

You need a living will so they know what you want when the time comes.

Go Grannie!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 11. Oct 2008 05:08 PM

Hey just been trying to call u. I see what u mean about your phone, all I get is silence for ages, it doesnt even ring once then it goes to redial! I tried several times with no luck but Im home for the night now so gimme a call.
I can tell u of my experience when my Pop then my Nan died & the differences in the way things were handled.
Its too long to write on here & too personal, especially given my Mother & her cohorts tend to read my posts.
So I'll save it til we next chat.
xxx

Written by Gyps, 11. Oct 2008 06:03 PM

Hi Grannie,

Thanks for the entry on my diary....i know you are right....you usually are, but it is nice to hear different suggestions from others to try to get you through.

I think Cate is right, a living will would be a good idea, or if you don't want to make it that formal, just write down what you would like and be as open as possible with your family so they can carry out your wishes. Their hearts will be heavy for losing you (as ours will be too), there is no doubt about that but them knowing what you prefer will take the pressure off of them in their time of grief.

Take care of you Grannie,

Luv Nouse

Written by Nouse, 11. Oct 2008 08:27 PM

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