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A page in the diary "Wednesday's Child"
Written by vivica 24. Jul 2008 06:07 AM

I've been awake since 3am. All I want is a good night's sleep. The spaniel is still sleeping soundly in my bed...
I have a bunch to do today; work, dr, family dinner. The boyfriend will be joining me at the dr's again, despite his night shifts. He said if I wanted him to be there it would be his first priority. I'm so lucky to have him.
I can hear my mother snoring. I wish I was still 6 years old and could climb into bed with my parents. I seem to remember that always fixed everything. When I was 12 I had an anxiety attack at 3am because my sister had just left for england and dad let me sleep in their bed next to him and listening to them sleeping made me so calm.
I've been receiving a lot of negativity about my medication lately. At first it was mostly from dad, but he's my dad and at least he acknowledged it was probably for the best. Lately a friend of mine told me she didn't think I should be on medication, I didn't need it or something, and today (well, yesterday) I was talking to someone I know who seemed to be under the impression that medication was a depressed person's way of "not dealing with their feelings". People are welcome to opinions. I know a lot of people take either of these views but I have opinions of my own. Firstly, they don't see me at my worst. They don't feel what I feel. They don't know that I frequently cry myself to sleep or have to talk myself down from harming myself. That I can't get out of bed. That the simplest tasks are overwhelming. Secondly, I wonder what these people would do in my situation. I am still dealing with my depression, as I have been for almost 7 years. The drugs don't change that. And they have never felt the desperation and hopelessness that lead me to feel I needed the medication. Honestly, what were my options? And I am glad I made the choice I did. Besides, I don't want to be miserable when I have any chance, no matter how small, of being happy.
My Costa Rica trip is almost all organised. I've got my passport and all my money together. I book my seat on the plane tomorrow, and have my travel insurance sorted by next week. It's really happening.
I'm having the best year of my life, everything is as perfect as it gets.
Oh god, I wish I could feel it.

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Comments from the community:

Dear Vivica

As I was reading your entry I thought to myself, this is my life you are writing about. I experience all the same issues that you do. I too have had people say that I shouldn't be on medication - everyone thinks they are Dr Phil! :-)

My advice - thank them for their care and thoughts, but find your own way and do what works for you.

I hope you have a wonderful time in Costa Rica - I have never been there, but it looks like a magical, healing and peaceful place to visit, so enjoy.

Wishing you well
Dolly x

Written by Deleted_User, 24. Jul 2008 11:41 AM

Classic post.
Fed up with the general idea that deppies are negative people.
Look at your life, how successful you are, despite how you feel. Look at how hard everyone here tries just to function. I myself am no fan of medication. It's good you listen to others, make your own decisions...but you must appear ok to others so that could be reassuring..

Written by maple, 24. Jul 2008 12:54 PM

Viv

Great diary entry. I can relate to it - only it is Queen Bee who is anti the psychiatrist and anti the medications. Hubby is supportive and I am glad your b/f is going with you to the doctors - be proud of him for putting you first.

You have a great positive - your trip to Costa Rica. Enjoy it as you get ready and you will have a great time.

Go Viv!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 24. Jul 2008 07:01 PM