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Written by Lozza37 20. Jun 2008 11:09 PM

Today I did absolutely nothing!!! I lay on the couch and dozed on and off, only got showered and dressed at 1:30pm becasue I thought I should before the kids got home from school. Feel a bit guilty but not really. I haven't worked since I got fired three weeks ago but have got another job, start next week. I am a bit worried about having enough money for our holiday next month to queensland. we are all looking forward to it so much. Not having my second income has been a bit tough. I so want to just run away for a few days and sleep and do nothing, have no responsablities, lseep all day if I want to, have a long hot bath with no interruptions. My husband is not very supportive, he figures that because I am not working that I can do it all, he only helps out a tiny bit when I do work. I am so sick of it. My ideas of a family life is not at all what I am experiencing. I have 3 lazy kids and a lazy husband, I try and do as much as I can but some days I just can't work up the enthusiasm. I have even left things for days to see if they would notice or do anything and they don't. I whinge and cry about it all the time and still they do nothing, even when i really lose it and tell my husband that I am just not coping he does nothing, he says how can he help if I don't ask him, but i do, I mention that doing the dishwasher is a help but an even better help would be to wipe the benches down and put the placemats away and washing the pots that are too big for the dishwasher would be better. But no, I still have to do all that too. My oldest is useless too, he sees his father not doing anything and "getting away with it". Arghhhhh. I am just going over this issue over and over again to no evail. I would really love some suggestions. I am at my wits end.

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Comments from the community:

Perhaps informing the family you are going on strike until your home conditions improve.But the reason for this post is where in qld are you holidaying if its on the gold coast let me know as one of my daughters works ay sea world and can get cheap entries to the theme parks here. TC

Written by grannie, 21. Jun 2008 01:56 AM

Hi Lozza , I,m thinking your hubby must be related to mine lol . I can so relate to this entry i work 3 days sometimes more and get no help at all i'm lucky if they put the bin out,now i just do what i can and if they complain watch out do i loose it i 've tried going on trike to ,but to no avail i think i have spoilt them to much .Anyway just do what you can and look after you . take care.Regards Belladoonaxox

Written by belladonna64, 21. Jun 2008 09:07 AM

Hi Lozza

No wonder you are exhausted and need a lie down on the couch! You don't have 3 kids - you have 4!

I would sit them all down - turn off the tv and explain to them that you are tired and you are not going to put up with their laziness anymore.

Start asking them to help more by using the words : Would you please...put the rubbish out - Would you please help me hang the clothes on the line...Men respond more to be asked more than being told.

Give that a try anyway and good luck. If all else fails tell your husband you want to hire a cleaner to come in once a week and he will have to pay for it! LOL

Good luck hun.

Wishing you well x
Dolly

Written by Deleted_User, 21. Jun 2008 12:17 PM

Lozza

I think the advise has been said by other entries. Tell them to help or go on strike. Great options. Hope the new job works out.

Go Lozza!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 21. Jun 2008 05:20 PM