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Hi hunni,

I'm sorry to hear of your struggles at the moment. I think it is imperative that you tell your dad of the sexual abuse. The abuser works on the fact that the abused will perpetuate their filthy little secret by keeping it quiet.

If you can't talk to your dad, then writing a letter is definitely a great idea. I too am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and I've written so many letters. Some I've sent, some just made me feel better by writing them and getting it off my chest.

I wish you love and strength in your journey.

Fly xx

Written by fly, 6. May 2008 11:40 AM

It's not appropriate for a young woman to discuss sex graphically with her Father no matter what the circumstances. It serves no purpose and will quite possibly ruin your relationship with him. I understand that you haven't learnt what is appropriate and what isn't, and that isn't your fault.
I hope you are getting proper help from a Sexual Abuse Counsellor, they are in the phone book and will know how best to help you, including getting you Victim's Compensation which is very straightforward and to which you are clearly entitled. You need an allie, and understanding and that won't be coming from one of your Parents at this point.
Go for it, find an appropriate way to get this burden off your shoulders before it destroys any more of your life. This is not your fault that your Stepfather was a sexual predator. You got a really bad deal. Your Mother has not coped well with this situation and frankly has lost the plot which is understandable. It is normal (sorry) for her to feel hatred toward you, it is not normal that she is acting it out so visciously.
Please get help.

Written by maple, 6. May 2008 12:49 PM

my thoughts and prayers are with you hun...i amhere if you need anything.xxxxx

Written by calmer, 6. May 2008 02:35 PM

Hunni

I think it is best not to go into graphic detail with your dad, what happened. This information is for a professional in sexual abuse or a psychiatrist, psychologist. Be strong and I hope dad gets his head around this and comes back to you and supports you.

Go Hunni!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 6. May 2008 03:40 PM

dee

it will all take time... you need to let your father know it takes time to heal... and that you need his support... maybe not go into graphic detail of your step father's abuse... sometimes it is better for your father to hear about it from the psychiatrist ... he will feel less helpless ... and will be given some strategies on how to support you... as for your mother... well it is up to you whether you cut her off... try to see the psychiatrist and psychologist to get the best advice...

keep talking here... and diarising until you see your specialists...

take care

rgds
cate

Written by cateblack, 7. May 2008 02:29 AM