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Oh hun,
u know, its SO much harder with dep, the consequences of our actions, or those of others, can be so much more extreme...
But without knowing what happened, is it possible that u merely behaved like a typical person who's had too much to drink?
Most people are ashamed when they screw up but dont let it be the end of the world ok?
Yes there were negatives to the night, but also positives, please dont overlook them hun.
If u make a big deal out of events, so will others. Just put it behind u.
Mmmwa
xxx

Written by Gyps, 4. Aug 2008 11:34 AM

PS- Congrats on all your hard work recovering to the level where u can return to work.
Yes, I realise you'll probably say its a financial issue but I also know u well enough to know if u werent ready to go back to work u wouldnt be entertaining the idea, so u are to be commended Jo, its been a long hard battle, essentially completely on your own, & a lesser person wouldnt've made it as well as u have.
Your made of strong stuff hun & your an inspiration to many.
Sending u lots of love & encouragement
Tan
xxx

Written by Gyps, 4. Aug 2008 11:44 AM

Hi Jo

Sheer stupidity? i think not!! you needed to get out and relax, let your hair down, its good to be able to do that once in a while, as for what others think, who cares, if they know you they will understand and if they don't know you then they don't count all that much.
Good luck with work, i know you are a bit anxious but when you get back in the swing you will enjoy it, it will make the days go a bit quicker for you, you can do it Jo, i know you can!!!

All the best Al

Written by Al1970, 4. Aug 2008 01:36 PM

No I was bad, it's not just my perception, and I am really suffering as I should be...it's one thing others creating havoc but it's worse when you stupidly do it yourself. And much worse when you hurt someone else as well. If it were only me I could stand it a lot better.
Work tomorrow..God help me...I really hate myself at the moment.

Written by maple, 4. Aug 2008 02:03 PM

Hun,

It happened - all you can do now is apologise to the person you hurt and accept it and move on. We all do silly things and hate ourselves for it. Its part of being human.

I really hope work goes well tomorrow. I am worried and anxious for you but at the same time, I am glad that you are moving forward. If you feel like you can't cope, then go home, let work know. Cause at the end of the day its about happiness and not about what you accomplish.

take care sweety pie

Love
wd

Written by WhiteDove, 4. Aug 2008 02:39 PM

Boy its hard trying to know how to answer this when its guess work as to the details...

Okay so you got drunk and made an ass of yourself yes?
And in the meantime hurt someone yes?

Well gee, I went out to a friends 50th on Fri and he was soooooooooooooo drunk and yeah he made a total ass of himself, he's kinda always had a thing for me (which's SO not gonna happen!) but on Fri he certainly made his... hormones clear! He was somewhat vulgar and I spoke to my g/f who's known him for years and she had words with him which settled things... sort of lol, man was he drunk!

But you know what? Thats just it, he was drunk!

Whilst I was aware he had a thing for me, he sure as hell hadnt been anywhere like that before, hell he hadnt even said anything, its just something a females can tell, if you know what I mean? So his behaviour on Fri wasnt his normal behaviour, it was the alcohol talking.

Yes he'd had waaaaaay to much to drink but you make allowances coz it was his 50th... and I dont hold his behaviour against him.

The same should apply in your situation hun.

It was really the first you'd been out in HOW long?

But not only were you out for lunch, but dinner as well which is a massive achievement even if it IS a massive stress inducer!

Then add the long hard battle you've been through on your own with the cancer.....

Being isolated for soooo long.....

Being out of work and so the financial pressures...

Being incapacitated for sooo long.....

Being dependant on others for certain things.....

The mental anguish all of the above causes...

The depression and anxiety...

And if all thats not enough, then add the excessive amount of alcohol, the first time in how long?????

Is it any wonder you went your behaviour was less than desirable????? ummmmmmm I think not!

People really should look at the whole picture and make allowances where allowances are due. If their not prepared to, then they arent worth knowing hun. And if the person your talking about is S then man am I gonna kick you up the arse!!!!!

Thought you got rid of him coz it finally dawned on you he was no good for you and put unreasonable pressure on you whilst totally neglecting your most basic of needs. And before any but but buts come from you, just precisely how many times has he totally gutted you with his callous narcissistic behaviour?????? Did it worry him in the slightest???? Given the length of time he abandoned you with no contact what so ever I dont think so.

So how bout stop worrying about someone who doesnt give a toss bout you and start concentrating on yourself and accepting yourself, faults and all?????

If your not referring to S....... weeeeellll..... save the lecture for next time then! lol

Love you hun bun
mmmwa
xxx

Written by Gyps, 4. Aug 2008 03:23 PM

Ok Jo, you may have made a mistake, so what? (no one is perfect) if it's needed, apoligise and go forward, what's done is done, that is history now.

You have learned to take it easy, lunch & dinner on the same day isn't affordable yet.

You will be ok, work myght be a good source of distraction.

best wishes, and Jo keep that fire going.

Written by 1990, 4. Aug 2008 09:04 PM

We're all human, and have all done things we regret - especially under the influence of alcohol. You're just another human being who made a mistake. Nobody died because of it, and everything passes and blows over. This will too. Give yourself some credit for actually making the effort to go out...and give yourself some credit for pushing through and taking steps to move forward now...in the present.

Everyone of us, irrespective of whether we have depression or not has made mistakes. Allow yourself to forgive yourself - it is over now.

I know what a horrible feeling it is, and am sending you love and warmth and acceptance. You will be ok.

Your friend,

Kimberly
xoxo

Written by newlife, 5. Aug 2008 09:15 PM

Maple

Thank you for the comment ... i was feeling unloved... and you are quite within your rights to disagree... i am not sure i expressed myself correctly...

take care

rgds
cate

Written by cateblack, 6. Aug 2008 12:26 AM