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Written by fly 15. May 2008 05:06 PM

Well, feeling very down in the dumps at the moment (least I'm feeling something again I guess). Went to see psychologist and had a good meeting with her. She shook my hand and congratulated me on remaining sober and getting through the party on Saturday night.

I posed the question to her that I was feeling "nothing". I think about my past abuse and feel nothing, that feels odd after 30 years of thinking about it and getting sad or angry or both.

She said that right back at the start 12 months ago when I first started seeing her that our aim was to be able to think about the abuse, acknowledge that it did happen, but to not think or feel anything much else about it. So I guess I've gotten to where I'm supposed to be as far as that issue is concerned. It's kind of snuck up on me, this feeling of peace.

I said I think I'm missing the drama of my previous booze filled days and she agreed, saying that it takes a while to fit into new life, a life much more serene. So it's official... I'm a drama queen missing my drama's! It's just something I'm going to have to get used to. I said I was bored and she came up with a great idea of actually getting my photo album up to date. Since the advent of digital camera's I have not printed one photo of my children. They're all on my computer, so I'm going to go through them all, save the best ones to disk, get them printed out and start making photo albums at night to give me something to do to alleviate the boredom. Sounded like a good idea to me.

Went to AA meeting and told them I partied sober, but that I'd had a struggle the previous week as to whether to have a wine or two at the party, and that after AA last week and meeting with psychologist I found the strength to continue abstaining.

Don't feel very strong at the moment though, I've come home from AA meeting feeling rather depressed at the thought of never having another drink, never being fun drunk. Don't want to go back to the suicidal drunk I was, I just want to go back to those first few that made me feel like superwoman and that no job was too mundane and there was nothing I couldn't do. I miss that.

My husband keeps saying I'm doing a wonderful job, as do you beautiful people here, and my GP, psychologist, people at work, neighbours, but geez, what I wouldn't do for a few drinks right now. I won't, but I'm just going through a tough time of it now - 7 weeks sober in 2 days. I know I'm doing a good job of it, I'm just bored and depressed and feeling sorry for myself at the moment!

Take care,

Karen xxx

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Comments from the community:

Fly

This is a very positive and inspiring diary and I wish you lots of luck with the psychologist and AA. Don't be depressed about the drinking - it is testing your will and you are strong and can beat it.

Well done for almost 7 weeks sober!!!

Go Fly!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 15. May 2008 08:27 PM

Hi,

I don't think you are feeling sorry for yourself, I can understand why you feel this way, stopping an addiction means losing a best friend. You are grieving over the loss of this but what you have to keep reminding yourself is that you are not your real self when you drink.

Almost always when I drink it ends in tears and though initially I'm tiddily and giggling it just turns me into a different person.

You are doing so fantastically well and I can tell you the longer you abstain the easier it will get, you just gotta get through these early days and then you will be laughing :)

I'm very proud of you

Bluewave
xxoo

Written by bluewave, 15. May 2008 10:06 PM

Hey Sister,

I am so damn sure we are related, i feel crazy. It is like i am reading my own diaries, it is scary!!!

But seriously, i feel so what you are going through, every little bit of it. I so feel like a drink, and i am not as far into sobriety as you, but i have my 4 weeks up today so i suppose that is something to be half happy about!!
I'm not sure i could be as strong as you and go yo a party and not drink, i don't trust myself that much yet.
I don't want to be the suicidal drunk anymore either, but i really miss a couple of drinks to relax me ater a hard day at work. Not sure how much longer i can hold out, but......

I think what you are trying to do with catching up with your photos is a great idea and will probably make you feel really good, any ideas to alleviate boredom and urges to drink are good, i suppose.

You are doing a wonderful job staying sober and if i can get you happy as well, then i am helping. It is a big ask when the only way you could feel happy is to be drunk, if your anything like me, but i will do everything i can to support you, even if i fail myself.

You are not alone Karen, you have many friends on depnet and beyond so let us help you as much as we can.

Take care, and if i one day i see you on chat, i will give you my details and one day we will meet, i promise you that.

Luv Nouse



Written by Nouse, 15. May 2008 10:45 PM

Hey Karen,

Firstly I wanted to say a huge thank you for your support and care, you really seem to get my posts and cut through them to the main points, I really appreciate your insight and compassion - they help.

Now back to you.

How I see it for you at the moment is that you are giving up on the old you, drinking depressed suicidal, and creating the new you sober, adjusted and yes at present a little empty.

The old you was dangerous to you existence, probably wasn’t all that great to be around but yes she felt everything through the magnification haze that alcohol can bring.

You know this and you are choosing another way. And it is working or you.

Some days you will feel like "just get me out of this " and a drink or three would assist that but you will loose what you are gaining.

What are you gaining?

Well I reckon you are gaining perspective, think you are gaining insight and with that insight you want to reach out and help.

Are you feeling closer to your hubby? Closer to your kids? Like you re more connected to the world?

And the price I know is very high, its bloody tough work, and on some days its OK just breezes by but on others...oh dear it is painful hard scary debilitating.


If I could give you a star I would but for now....

"Star bright, star light
How I wish I wish tonight
I wish for Karen to have continued strength in her battles and to know how much she makes a difference here on dept net and in her every day life"


Keep strong,

Liz
XXX

Written by keller, 16. May 2008 03:49 PM