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Written by fly 11. Jul 2008 11:26 PM

Haven't been here in quite a while, haven't had much to say (thankfully).... but what a week I've had and I felt compelled to get it down on "paper" so to speak.

Such a mish mash of emotions, mostly humongous and uncontrollable. Some I've dealt with well, some I haven't. But on the whole I'm happy with the way things have turned out finally, looking back on my week.

I'd like to start with last Thursday.... for one I found out that my husband's employer had decided to employ someone above him (my husband is a store manager) and they employed this person to "get the store running"... a definite kick in the guts for my poor husband. We have been complaining constantly about his level of pay, but his employers seem to think if they keep undermining his skills then he has no reason to have a payrise, ggrrrr. Also, during the same day I found out from my work colleague that my job share girl had quit.... So now I've got to train another person, about the 4th person in the last 2 years and I'm completely fed up with training people I know won't be able to handle the position (aww gee, it's only 2 days a week I'm asking them to handle).

So I didn't handle all this stuff very well and ended up slashing my wrists quite severely, leading to an ambulance and hospital, stitches and mental health assessment. Fortunately I passed (dont ask me how, but all I can say is thank god for the inefficiencies of the public mental health system) and was released the same night/morning. After much debating I was finally released and at half past friggen two and i finally got home, blah!

Since then I have seen my shrink and my psychologist and have fessed up to both about my slash 'o' thon. My shrink told me I was "naughty" and my psychologist was a lot more concerned.... concerned about the anger with which I punished myself, for I didn't care if I hit major veins, arteries, nerve endings or whatever I've since found I possess in my wrists. But by the time I needed to fess up to my mental health team a whole week had passed and I couldn't believe I'd been at that point less than a week prior.

What's with that?? How my thoughts and feelings change constantly, so much so that in the space of 1 week I've gone from thinking I'm completely losing my mind to a complete feeling of wellbeing? At the moment I feel great, but confused at my ever altering emotional state. I just don't get this shit.

I'm sorry I haven't been here to add my bit to the diary replies, I just haven't had it in me to do so, but I hope you're all going OK ("as well as can be expected LOL") and you are all doing your utmost to look after yourselves.

I remain most respectfully yours (as a very confused person),

Karen xxx

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Comments from the community:

Dearest Karen

I have missed you so very much and have thought of you each day - wondering and hoping if you would return. I'm so glad you did.

So sorry you are having a bad time and sounds like you have been to hell and back. I'm also sorry for your hubby's work situation - they sound like a bunch of shits...perhaps he should look for another job where he will be appreciated and paid better.

Welcome back sweety - take care.

Love dolly x

Written by Deleted_User, 11. Jul 2008 11:47 PM

Karen

Welcome back from your depnet holiday... didn't miss much... some new ppl who are nice... still a bit of conflict but mostly resolved...

The emotional rollercoaster is hell of a ride... sorry you have been on it... and I do not know what is with it... damned annoying... to say the least...

Hope things plateau out for your family...

take care

rgds
cate

Written by cateblack, 11. Jul 2008 11:55 PM

If your not trying to enter into a debate why leave a comment, as you have on mine. Of course it was offensive, saying that Im trying to run a pack, only because Im using the word "we", its better than me putting someones name in its place.

By the way you should put a warning in your heading about self-harming. It is a little to much information for depnet readers. The thought of knowing you have "slashed " your wrists is very disturbing and upsetting. Please take this as only a concern and not to be vindictive.

Take care
Matt xx

Written by Deleted_User, 12. Jul 2008 12:33 AM

I'm sorry to hear you're on such a rollercoaster, and about the self harming. I can relate a little too well unfortunately. As for your shrink, I want to slap him/her. I personally believe nobody should ever be told off for self harm behaviour. It only drums in negativity, which is the last damn thing you need. Anyway, I'll get off my soap box. Glad you're OK, hang in there.

Written by babz, 12. Jul 2008 12:45 AM

Im not here for a English lession. I think we need to come to an agreement. You stay away from my diaries and I will stay away from yours.

Matt

Written by Deleted_User, 12. Jul 2008 01:04 AM

Fly

Welcome Back and thanks for your comments.

I am sorry about hubby being overlooked for the job. Shite happens - I know it as I was overlooked for my first promotion and was absolutely guttered/upset with the damn system.

As for your job share, you are probably getting the centrelink single mums who have to return to work once their kid hits school age and want to work between school hours. I pity you to have to train a person to job share because they have to be such a unique person to work with, leave information for you as to where things are at and are willing to be part of the team. Hope you find someone that fits the skillfit.

Go Fly!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 12. Jul 2008 06:19 AM

Elo fly
welcome back sorry u have had a hard time. Glad ur ok an keep ur chin up im here if u need anything.

take care
dee

Written by hunni, 12. Jul 2008 06:50 AM

Hi Fly! I love saying that.
Onward and upward then. It's amazing how people fall apart over work issues, I think the whole psychology of working should be taught in School so that we as adults are far more prepared for how it can affect us.
Good you are feeling better. One thing..if you were drinking at that time, remember it causes impulsivity.
All the best fly.

Written by maple, 12. Jul 2008 09:54 AM

Hi again Karen

Was just reading the comments from nothappy and am finally thankful that someone else can see the forest for the trees when it comes to him! :-)

I also commented in his diary about his attack on MrsStudying and it hit him a little too close to the bone i think. He went a little balistic and asked me not to comment in his diary (laughs). Hey, fine by me I thought and haven't commented since.

We best keep this to ourselves though, we wouldn't want to be accussed of reigniting any debate!

Love dolly x

Written by Deleted_User, 12. Jul 2008 01:21 PM

I hope for everyone's sake, especially yours, that you can put wrist slashing behind you. It would be such a waste of a valuable human being if you take that too far.

The work problems are the sort of thing many people have to contend with. You can handle it as well.

Written by TerryN, 12. Jul 2008 01:45 PM

Hi there Karen,

I have really missed you. And now I hear about the turmoil you have been in I am very sad- it must have been incredibly tough.

Please be kind to yourself, you are the mother to your kids, the wife to your husband, the friend to your friends and one of my depnet buddies.

Hope to catch you on chat soon


Love

Liz

Written by keller, 12. Jul 2008 09:19 PM