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Hey, most people fall off the wagon a few times. Don't be too hard on yourself, but yeah, the physical and emotional pain is a good reminder why you gave up.
Fly, what happens is the brain changes after alcohol which is why the 3 drinks just didn't stick, you become disinhibited and so all resolutions go out the window, your brain wanted more and your brain got it's way.
You haven't let anyone down except maybe yourself and even then forgive yourself, look at your successes not your failures, fighting addictions is a really difficult thing to do. Please respect yourself which includes accepting that you are capable of making mistakes.
All the best.

Written by maple, 9. Jun 2008 11:43 AM

Maple is right, everybody falls off the wagon sometimes. I remember after I self harmed/drank the night after I hit the pedestrian I felt similar to what you feel now. Yes, we both screwed up, but we are both human and we have to forgive ourselves. Very few people give up something cold turkey without ever doing it again, that's a natural part of the healing process. I don't think the experience was wasted on you though, you've had a reminder why you decided to stop this behaviours, and it seems to me that it has strengthened your resolve to get sober - that's a good thing, even if the way it happened isn't the greatest.

You don't have to apologise to any of us, but you need to apologise to yourself, forgive yourself and move on.

Lots of hugs!

Written by babz, 9. Jun 2008 12:22 PM

You have not let anyone down Karen, god you are so brave coming on here and fessing up at all, that is to be applauded.

We on depnet are here to support you and on a personal level I am here to support you come what may.

You identified the problem a big first stop, you changed your behaviour second step this is just a relapse, no more no less.

Put this behind you and stride on...you want to do this, there will be some pain for the gain Karen.

Take a breath forgive your self and move on, yeh the anti dep medication may have been an issue, work with a doc on that one.

Do take care, I am your cheersquad Karen and you have not let me or anyone else down.

Love and support


Liz

Written by keller, 9. Jun 2008 01:04 PM

I found AA helpful when I quit drinking.

Written by TerryN, 9. Jun 2008 01:06 PM

Fly

People fall off the wagon so don't feel bad about it. Get back in the wagon and try to beat it as you were doing so well. One slip, isn't the end of things. It just means the beginning of some hard work again - you will get through it.

Go Fly!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 9. Jun 2008 04:26 PM

Hi Karen

We all relapse sometimes - no-one ever gave up drinking or smoking or sticks to a diet on the first go - It might take 2, 3 or maybe even 15 times before we succeed.

The important thing to remember is you have the courage to keep trying - and I for one, admire you for that.

Hang in there.

Love dolly x

Written by Deleted_User, 9. Jun 2008 07:20 PM

You haven't let anyone down, you had a bit of a glitch, ok? But just the fact that you realised your mistake is a start! I am constantly battling the demon alcohol -I can't have 'just a couple' to relax, it's got to be 10, 11, 12? I lose count. I fall off the wagon on a regular basis and feel so bad the next day - not just the hangover but I seem to have no self control anymore. What's more - I pig out while I'm drunk too! So it's not helping my body issues or self esteem either. I am going to get some books on alcoholism from the library this week, maybe that'll help me a little. And maybe AA is another option.
You sound like you're pretty strong - one hiccup does not make you a failure. I wish I was more like you!
Don't give up, Karen. I'm not.
Maya
x

Written by Maya, 9. Jun 2008 08:35 PM

Hi Fly

ok yes you slipped up but it dosent matter all that much, you will get there and as you said its a reminder to you and will help you in the future, i just wish i could give up smoking :)

Written by Al1970, 9. Jun 2008 09:35 PM