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Jess

I know exactly how you feel... it got so bad at one place i worked they had to be given instructions on how to tell me about the performance reviews...

and now i take valium just to get through a shift...

jess you have said this job is good... have some trust that the review will be a good one... and hey you might even get a pay rise from it.. but lets not get too far ahead...

take care... maybe some valium to help you level out ... talk to your pdoc about the review and the distress you are experiencing...

rgds
cate

Written by cateblack, 1. Jun 2008 12:07 AM

Be prepared. Usually a review contains positives and negatives, things they would like you to work on. Just say Yes I will improve that and thank you, and try to understand the process and not take it too personally.
Good luck!

Written by maple, 1. Jun 2008 11:52 AM

Hey Wild Rose
It sounds like you are extremely nervous about your review, which is sensible to some extent, everyone gets nervous when their performance is under review. However, it seems that you are really hard on yourself; your quotes
You just don’t fit in here
- You keep messing things up
- People feel uncomfortable around you
- You look like crap
- Your not doing your job right
- People find it difficult to talk to you
- Your inadequate
- People don’t really like you that much
- Your not gonna last the 3 month trial
Please don't talk to yourself in this way, no wonder you are feeling uneasy. I find that this type of talk makes me downslide at an alarming rate, try if you can to be rational and chat back to these self defeating comments, for example, You keep messing things up, hey well I make mistakes, everyone is human and others make mistakes as well, I'm learning from my mistakes and i'll make sure I don't make the same mistake again... Not sure if that helps at all, and I know from past experience it can be difficult when you are feeling down to stand up for yourself, but life is difficult enough without us attacking ourselves, try to treat yourself kindly if you can. All the best Wild Rose, thinking of you From Riles

Written by riles, 1. Jun 2008 12:50 PM

Hi wild rose,

I sympathise with your anxiety at your impending review and can understand how it would raise your anxiety levels. I think you hit the nail on the head though when you said that if you were doing something wrong somebody would have pointed it out to you by now. I think that would be the case, so I don't think you have too much to worry about with the review.

Like maple said, they will probably give you positive and negative feedback, no-one's perfect (remember that), so if they do give you any negative feed back just say thank you and that you'll work on that area.

All the best and good luck.

Karen xxx

Written by fly, 1. Jun 2008 02:00 PM

Jess

Where is the prove that these negative things are true? Not at all - they are negatives and you need to turn them into positives. Be well prepared - things you have achieved, want to achieve, training you need. You will be fine and get through the review and keep the job. Just remain positively and you will be fine.

Go Jess!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 1. Jun 2008 03:38 PM