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Hi Les,

You weren't pushy, i just thought i had offended you and left the chat room in tears thinking i had hurt anyone.

Again, I'm sorry if i hurt you and didn't mean to.

I am trying hard to return my brain to some sort of normality, but am struggling. I will keep trying as hard as i can, but as i have said so many times before, there are no promises in my life anymore.

Luv Nouse

Written by Nouse, 27. Mar 2008 09:55 PM

Hi Lesley,
I'd like to make a comment in regards to both this and your previous post... Im just really not too sure how to word it in such a way that you wont take offense...

Im NOT trying to cause any upset for you, but have noticed you've done a few poss ................ apologising for reaching out to help others...

Never EVER apologise for reaching out to someone or offering them friendship, if more people reached out Im sure the world would be a better place....

The fact that you can put your own troubles aside to be there for someone else in a time of need is to be commended, certainly nothing to apolgise for.

Its just that..... well..... everyones different you know? And while some people may be willing to take up your offer..... no, thats not the right way of putting it..... while some people may be ABLE to reach out and take hold of your hand, there are some that simply CANT, for whatever reason of their own...

Maybe its just not the right time for them, maybe they just arent ready... or even ABLE to discuss things, maybe they dont feel comfortable, or maybe their simply sick of discussing it and if they have to talk about it one more time they'll cry...

But sometimes people cant put these things into words coz their kind of a mess... whatever....

Its great that you reach out to soooo many people, and yes your fairly well known for it, but.......... ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmm............... I guess you just need to learn to................ ?????????????????? ............... not take things to heart so much I guess........... but also to recognise when people either cant or WONT discuss things, for whatever reason of their own......

Why am I writing this?

Well the other day you were trying to get me to "talk" and told me you hoped things were better..... a fairly innocent comment to make really, gotta admit, but see it was SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO the wrong thing to say at the time, and given what Id just been thru not two hours earlier, it was actually a fairly stupid thing to say - except you werent to know that - so basically I gave u a fairly brutally blunt tho 100% accurate account of what'd happened and asked the simple question of "so tell me just HOW exactly anything could POSSIBLY be better".....

No-one can expect you to be a mind reader, but I really DIDNT want to talk about things(for reasons I CANT explain on here) and you DIDNT get the hint... I KNOW you were trying to help.... and I DO appreciate that..... its just that it wasnt a situation you knew anything of so therefor to discuss it with you wouldve meant rehashing....... oooooooh..... the last 12 months of my life..... which wouldve left me a total and utter basketcase!

I guess what Im trying to get at.... probably in a very bad way.... is .... well just like how you wrote "Just because I seem bubbley on the outside doesnt mean Im not falling apart on the inside...." well by the same token..... just because you are trying to get people to talk so you can help them, doesnt mean they can or WILL talk...

I dunno Lesley..... this's probably the worst comment Ive ever written... Im trying real hard here to help you understand without offending you and having you go off troppo again saying how you should stop reaching out to people coz obviously its the wrong thing to do.... its just that the other night when I was on chat I saw two separate people ............ well............. they didnt tell you not to push it so to speak but thats sure what they meant.....

Just................. I dunno.............. maybe just offer once not repeatedly coz that CAN come across as pushy if you know what I mean?

Again, not meaning to upset you, just trying to explain it from other peoples point of view so maybe you dont get sooo hurt and upset if people dont want to talk about stuff with you.... you know what I mean?????

If not, it doesnt really matter coz Im kinda thinking this's probably gonna backfire and blo

Written by Gyps, 28. Mar 2008 01:24 AM

If not, it doesnt really matter coz Im kinda thinking this's probably gonna backfire and blow up in my face in a massive way........

sorry...........

Written by Gyps, 28. Mar 2008 01:29 AM

Lesley

Keep trying to help and support people. You are good at trying this and that is what is a positive for you. People will reply to you either positively or negatively if they are up to chatting or not. Don't ever apologise for caring. We need people to care.

Go Lesley!!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 31. Mar 2008 04:05 PM