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(((((lesley)))))

Take Care,
Lynda

Written by lynda, 10. Sep 2008 10:15 AM

Mmm... well... since you yourself have raised this Lesley, and made it a public diary which we know invites responses from others... I'm going to give you mine and it's been a long time coming.

"Mind your own business" you shout in capitals in your diaries heading. Well how about you MIND YOURS!

Continuing on with the tone you set - How about you not pounce on every new person who joins DepNet and start grooming them through false promises and contrived fondness for your own needs being met.

It starts off here and then you invite them to MSN where you under no moderation go about confounding them by running hot and cold towards them depending on whether they please you or not.

You make the grandest statements of loyality and premature love towards them, you MO most frequently runs towards making them part of your pseudo family or your bestest bestest friend.

Let me see... to my reckoning you now have 2 daughters and 2 sisters here from depnet. Dysfunctional stuff big time. You cultivate these relataionships to solely meet your own needs and they are but pawns whom you tie up in the most bizzare and unhealthy dynamics.

By your own admissions you have trashed your own relationships with your own children and extended family... you now continue these unhealed mindsets and behaviours into new relationships with people.

You control them and punish them if they dare talk to each other, if they dare transgress against you - according to your warped beliefs as to what constitutes love.

You have caused a lot of pain and conflict in meeting your own ends.

Now... to the men. Your sexual needs and desires are legendary... you yourself promote yourself this way.

Again DepNet is a source for you. Again you take it to MSN. You sexualise all your relationships whether conscious or not. You even tried this with me, a lesbian, as you played with the idea, and for awhile I was also trapped in your mad world, caught up in the conflicting messages that you excel at. I got smart... wised up and left before too much damage was done but I fear for others who become emeshed and isolated as you use every known tactic that abusers of others use to control.

I see you as a manipulator and a predator who misuse's this site and whether you wipe this entry of mine or not I will be forwarding it to the administrators as I believe this situation has been kept quiet for too long. I also urge other people to come forward and at least contact Admin with your experiences if you do not want to do so publically.

I see you as a cancer that runs through Depnet... quitely... slowly affecting people... some worse then others. At the very least you are a divisive influence and your hidden agendas need to see the light of day.

Are you the devil incarnate... of course not. Do you have times of being well and having healthy exchanges... of course you do. Do you have positive traits... yes you do. But... and that's a big BUT... you are a very ill woman with a narcisstic personality whom continues to cause havoc in the lives of others, especially your own.

Undoubtedly others will come to your defence... you have been confronted by me and psychology says some will come to pick you up and dust you off and assure you I'm wrong and you're a treasure.

I expect to be challenged myself. All good and well if it finally gets this long running situation out and about and readily known. And to those whom know where I'm coming from this is for you as much as for me and also hopefully will protect and alert others.

This lady needs to be only communicated with on DepNet under supervision and moderation. Do not accept invites to go to MSN and take the relationship off site.

Continue trying to get help Lesley. Try telling the truth to your mental health professional which I admit is known to be very hard for a narcisstic by the very nature of the disorder... you just can't see anything that doesn't speak to your delusional and grandio

Written by Alchemy, 10. Sep 2008 11:07 AM

grandiose sense of self. But where there's life there's hope I guess.

BTW... how about lessening the number of xxx's you sign off on you replies to people... especially people you've just met... it's false and inappropriate.

Written by Alchemy, 10. Sep 2008 11:22 AM

???

Written by Gyps, 10. Sep 2008 12:05 PM

Gee Nickhy thanks for your concern and I can see there was a mistake in trying to know you too. But thanks again and I wish you all the best, whether you believe it or not.


Les

Written by lesleyk, 10. Sep 2008 05:05 PM

Hi Lesley,

Please don't take any notice of what Nicky said. I'm sorry I haven't been around to chat to you on depnet. My computer screwed up and then I went through a really bad time where I couldn't talk to anyone much. I would be more than happy to chat to you off of depnet if I had msn but I still dont have it yet.

Hope to chat soon.

xxox

Written by survivor, 12. Sep 2008 11:36 PM