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Can you hate your family THIS much?????

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Written by Nouse 26. Jul 2008 01:31 AM

I'm really not sure how i feel about my family anymore. The impending sale of my Dad's river shack is driving me to despair. It is all i have left of my Dad...he built it with his own hands for somewhere to give his family holidays, it is the legacy he left us.......and now it will be sold because my family love money more than they love my Dad. I can't believe they can do this, it is all we have left .....there are so many memories of Dad there...how can they want to lose all of those memories?

I have sat at Dad's grave stone talking to him about this numerous times.....asking him to tell me what to do to try to save the shack....please...give me some guidance Dad, i don't know what to do anymore....these family members that say they loved you more than anything are now betraying you.

Hubby and I can't save the shack monetary wise, not on our own anyway and the thought of it getting sold after 42 years in the family just rips at my heart. I know damn well this is not what you would have wanted and we tried so hard to buy it, but it eventually got priced out of our reach. It saddens me so to see Mum wanting it out of the family when she knew how much it meant to you. I don't know what to do anymore Dad......i just want to give up and come and be with you....that is all i want now. I'm not coping well with other things in my life right now and this is just causing me untold grief.

I never in a million years thought our family would be split like this......shows how trusting natures can be taken advantage of, hey.

I really don't like the word "hate", but....i really HATE my family for doing this to my darling Dad. He doesn't deserve this after the pain he went through.....not now....not ever.

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Comments from the community:

Hi Darl,
Money is often a problem after family members pass away.
I agree with you that your 'dads river shack' would hold precious memories...it is sad that the thought of selling it for money has overcome your families desires.
I do pray they will re-think what they are thinking of doing & keep the 'river shack' for what your dads intentions were...memories are worth hanging onto. Money means nothing.
Love & Support,
Nanna Val x0x

Written by NannaVal, 26. Jul 2008 03:07 AM

Hi nouse, reading this has bought tears to my eyes, i can feel your pain through reading this and wish there was something i could do to help u, just remember i'm always here for u and always will be anytime u need me u know where i am, i don't mind what condition your in if u think a chat will help then let me help.

(((((((((((nouse)))))))))))))

love B1

Written by bananas, 26. Jul 2008 06:58 AM

Is it really that you hate your family, or that you hate what they are doing? I know you said that you and your hubby can't afford to buy it yourselves, but could you possibly buy it with another couple or with one of your siblings as well and use it as a 'time share' place?

Written by babz, 26. Jul 2008 12:05 PM

Nouse

Death and money bring out the worst in people and I am sorry this is happening in your family. Babz's suggestion about going into partnership with someone/one of the family members is a great idea.

I can understand you are so upset about this because you are going to lose your memories of you and your dad and that is a sad thing to experience.

Hope you can find someone to help you buy the shack and safe it for your memories of dad and your holidays.

Go Nouse!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 26. Jul 2008 03:40 PM

Hi matey,

Your entry bought tears to my eyes for more reasons than one. My Dad is still firmly entrenched on this earth, but even when he passes I still won't feel the same way about him as you do about your Dad. You obviously had a very special relationship with your Dad and you should feel glad you had that opportunity.

Unfortunately you can't stop the rest of your family selling your Dad's river shack, even though it would probably be financially prudent to do just that at this stage, enabling you to protect his memory.

I loved my Nanna, but she had a small house in North Adelaide that was left to my mother, who quicklyl sold it to a niece for less than it was worth. That house meant more to me than the $45K my mother got for it, and probably at this very moment it's worth upward of $1M. I used to have a dream of buying it back into the family, but unfortunately that isn't possible now. But that doesn't lessen the love I have for my Nanna, she was a special woman, the woman that tought me warmth and empathy for fellow souls, and even though I can't afford to buy back her little piece of Adelaide, I can still honour her with my memories.

You can do that for your Dad to Nouse.

Take care,

Karen xxx

Written by fly, 27. Jul 2008 12:09 AM

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