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Hi Kim

I'm sorry your mood is low now. But you are more resilient than you know. Imagine I am there, pushing you along. You can make it.

Peter

Written by surfer, 5. Aug 2008 09:50 PM

Oh Kimberly,

I can imagine how you feel, from my own experience. Grief is so painful. And I know what it means to lose a special soulmate, a true love. It feels unbearable. And still you bear it, day by day, and slowly, very slowly the pain will get milder, although you can't imagine at the moment. Grief comes in waves, and you will learn to balance them. Be thankful for the better days and know that the worst days of grief also have their purpose, and there is no way out, no way around them, you can only go through.

I am with you and have been thinking of you many times. I was surprised about your marriage breakup when I read about it. I could not believe it. Makes me very sad. I feel with you.

Love,
Luise.

Written by Luise, 5. Aug 2008 10:10 PM

Dear Kimberly

So sorry you are hurting at the moment. It's a long, hard road love - i have travelled it and there is no easy answers or quick fix for a broken heart.

Time heals they say, and it will take time. I waited 10 years before i felt like I wanted someone new in my life and it is working well.

Once you feel stronger tell yourself that the best revenge is living well! :-) Buy yourself a pretty dress or get a makeover - you will not only look fantastic, but you will feel fantastic too!

Sending you love and support

Dolly x

Written by Deleted_User, 5. Aug 2008 10:50 PM

Hello my friend,

I am sorry to hear that your emotions are still high and that your grief is so intense and prominant in your life just now.

As you and I know these feelings of grief will ebb and flow and we need to ride with them, accept them for what they are and get along as best we can.

I hope you can take time to keep caring for yourself whilst you acknowledge how hard this journey to acceptance truely is.

If there is a destination at all. I have been wrestling with the notion that acceptance is not a valid sort of term, I more think rather than accepting what is not tanglible and that which constantly shifts and redefines it self we just need to acknowledge our emotions, you are doing this.

I dont think there is an end state to this process, you with your relationship and life altering seperation and me with my physical and life altering disabilities.

I miss you very much and at times have just wanted to write you and clear my head but I know you have much to contend in with your new life, work and the memories of your old life. I think of you often, as a matter of fact this afternoon sitting on the train~!
I wondered how life is in Perth, does it still seem a little unreal to life in the UAE and I wondered how much time will need to pass for you to be comfortable in your own skin.

And then here you are in my diary and me in yours.

I hope the current sadness passes quickly and you can keep it together, I know you can, you have been through some challenging times before life began to treat you well and more recent turmoil.

Know I am thinking of you, know that you have strength, know there is still a world out there waiting for you, know that the intensity you feel today may or may not be there tomorrow.

Know you are a strong capable woman and that if you choose you can, if you want, find a new life partner. Not today but one day.

Love and support always,


Liz

Written by keller, 5. Aug 2008 11:37 PM

Warmth, love and acceptance to you as well Kimberley.

Written by maple, 6. Aug 2008 12:01 AM

I wish you well and hope and expect that your pain will ease with the passage of time.

Written by TerryN, 6. Aug 2008 01:40 PM

Kimbo, I feel for you. Grieving for a true love is like grieving following a death, except that death has a finalisation often lost when the person being grieved for is living, breathing & getting on with their own life without you. I guess the worst part is that, while your heart yearns for them the same as if they'd passed away, it's not as final (subjectively). Afterall, there's still more of a chance of everything coming up roses & living happily ever after together. Well, more of a chance compared to the chances with a deceased person.

Again, when you find the solution, please let me know. You will find it; your incredible intestinal fortitude will see to that.

Written by Deleted_User, 6. Aug 2008 03:41 PM

Everytime I see the term"intestinal fortitude" I know its Michael writing to u!

Wonder what he'd call u if he saw your pic???
I know he likes pretty blondes (& he wonders why I wont send him my pic lol) tho if u can shake your arse like Kylie Minogue your on the home straight! ROFPMSL

I'll write u when Im on a computer later with my thoughts bout your post, dont wanna risk upsetting u again...

Hmmm Kimbo pole dancing & shakin her arse in gold hotpants... Can just imagine what MG's thinkin LMAO

Mmmwa
xxx

Written by Gyps, 7. Aug 2008 01:39 PM

Pretty blondes? Whatever gave you that idea, Gyps?

Gotta say that Kylie's gold hotpants don't really do it for me & I've never fully understood the fuss. I mean, yeah they're skimpy & tight & Kylie has some fine glutes, but that whole look is...uninspired? Boring? I dunno...not sexy? Plus I don't particularly like any songs from her 'Light Years' album. Anyway, the white singlet she wears in the "Some Kind of Bliss" video, however, should be given its own chat show!

Still, I'm lost as to what any of this has to do with Kimbo's entry!

Jeez...stumped by the hotpants fuss & stumped by this topic. I'm just Mr Vague today. Should've been a Madonna fan instead - could've at least been Mr Vogue.

Written by Deleted_User, 9. Aug 2008 12:05 PM

Hi Kim,

Sorry about the mood. Maybe a bit strange, but I think you are the lucky one. I've lost my partner after living in hell for some years and now see my son once a week. Some nights are really lonely. However all I remember from her, unfortunately an ongoing issue, is hatred and cruelty. Don't know whose fault it is. You had a caring and loving relationship and it's great. It doesn't happen to everybody. As they say "Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened".

wish you lots of smiles,
bb

Written by bluebird, 21. Aug 2008 03:04 AM

Hi Diana
I hope you get this. Nice to catch some vibes from you today, and thx, I do hope you're doin' good too. Don't know if you got to read the comment I left, but sorry for your troubles. You didn't need that happening to you, especially during your recovery period. Similar has happened to me as well, though I have dug deeper, and again found my power source. I guess you have done the same, and we keep on growing, strength to strength eh! I'm still hangin' on to uni, but have found it hard with stuff happening. How is your new job treating you? If you receive this, please reply, as I'd love to catch up with you. My computer crashed some time ago, and I lost heaps of info and email addies, including yours. I had saved some of your emails elswhere, though the addy was your uni and not your hotmail one.
Love, geo xoxox

Written by geo, 18. Oct 2008 03:14 PM

Oh, my email now is ' stickermania@hotmail.com ', and my mobi is 0410192092.

....I extend what love and strength within my power, to uplift and energise your inner spirit....

Written by geo, 18. Oct 2008 03:43 PM