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I think this is a good opportunity to tell the story of living with depression...

I do not have a partner to support me... so i will not be telling my story...

i hope others with partners find the courage to talk to the interviewers...

take care

rgds
cate

Written by cateblack, 16. May 2008 12:59 AM

Ok.
Been thinkin bout this 1 all nite. Noticed no-1s commented... U disappoint me Stud, thort u commented on EVERY post! lol
Kinda got my response figured out cept it means I gotta haul my arse 2 the comp-my mobiles FAR more convenient ;-)
Gimmee abit...

Written by Gyps, 16. May 2008 01:00 AM

Hahaha beaten by THAT much! Lmao

Written by Gyps, 16. May 2008 01:02 AM

beat you Gyps...lol..

cate

Written by cateblack, 16. May 2008 01:06 AM

Heya Mods,
long time no chat ;-)

When I read this post I thought straight away it must've been a real buzz for you guys to receive the offer, it just goes to show that despite the ups and downs on this site from time to time, on the whole its a wonderful site thats beneficial to SOOOOOOOOOOOO many people in SO many ways.

Not just for the program and information provided, or the letterbox, but one of the most important aspects is the diary section.

So many times we see some newbie come on who's incredibly hesitant to open up... they are lost and alone in the world and havent a clue what to do or where to turn to... They make a first timid post, receive a warm welcome that generally amazes them, and gradually over time they learn to open up...

Then they venture into the chat room - probably the second most important feature on this site! They may say hi but then promptly sign out as they get too nervous... a few days later they may log on again but mention they arent sure what to say, or they have trouble keeping up... else they just think we're all total nutbags lol

So we explain to them how to follow the convo's, we use people's names in every comment to make it easier for the newbies to know who is talking to whom, and we slowly encourage them to open up and let us in... by this stage they've generally figured out that yeah, on the whole we're all as crazy as each other - both in the bad sense- which helps coz they dont feel like their some weird freak anymore... but also in the good sense as in sharp witty humour - total nutbags good for a stir which can certainly cheer a miserable person up!


And in spending a lot of time reading and replying to diaries, and interacting in the chat room, you sure learn a lot about people, but also you learn alot about depression in general as people share their experiences, both good and bad...

Yeah sure, there ARE some good experiences- tho usually people can only see them when they are on the mend... when their in the depths of darkness there IS no good in the world...

And the bad........ where does a person even begin to describe the bad??????

The fact that a magazine wants to run a story on depression is a wonderful thing, anything that brings more awareness can only be a good thing...

But I also hope you guys, being psychs, medico's or whatever your day job may be, I hope you guys are able to provide some information about statistics???

Coz while I can readily think of some women on this site who have a wonderful hubby who is a never ending source of strength and encouragement, I can think of many many more who either are on their own, have fled domestic violence or wish to God they COULD flee...

And what about the marriage breakdowns as a result of depression???? And thats not just if its a woman who has depression, but even if its the hubby who has the screwy head, how many marriages breakup as a result of depression or mental illness?????

I remember when my ex hubby had HIS mental breakdown, with all his suicide attempts and me being his carer 24/7 as he was on suicide watch, as well as he suffered from anxiety, agoraphobia, major depression, insomnia etc etc.... all the hell we both went through... not to mention the kids who thought it was all THEIR fault.... but see, it was HIS psychiatrist, HIS psychologist, HIS GP, HIS counselor, HIS physio, HIS massage therapist (tried everything I could think of to help him relax...

It was all about HIM and the rest of the family fell apart coz it was all about HIM HIM HIM and there was no support for the rest of us, and try explaining the situation to young kids.....

So yeah, I fell apart coz I was SCREAMING out for help and there was no one there for me... no-one to help... no-one who cared.....

His Psychologist saw us both one day bout 6 months before we split up and she asked him how he felt... he just shrugged and said he didnt know.... Then she turned to me and started to ask me the sa

Written by Gyps, 16. May 2008 02:04 AM

Then she turned to me and started to ask me the same thing but before she'd managed to even start, I automatically spat out "DEAD!" My God did both the psych and my ex look at me!

When he went to the loo she asked me if I still loved him and I immediately told her NO! She asked me why I was still with him and I simply told her that he wouldnt survive a week without me and I didnt want his death on my conscience for the rest of my life..

She told me she understood that and that it was a normal feeling, that quite often the wife (or husband as the case may be) no longer loves their partner, but that doesnt mean they wish them ill. So they stay with them to keep them safe.....

She also said its amazing the amount of marriages that fail as a result of a breakdown or mental illness.....


Ive waffled... I apologise... But I hope these things are also made aware to the magazine reporters coz Id hate for anyone who may read the article to feel like they were a failure if THEY didnt have a husband to support them like "the lady in the article".....

Anyhows, time for a smoke and bed...
and the time you guys read this... by the time you get through it, it'll be time for a coffee!!!

See Mods, aren't I nice? I ALWAYS give you guys permission for a coffee break after reading one of my posts to you LMAO :-p

mmmmmmwa
Gyps
xxx

Written by Gyps, 16. May 2008 02:06 AM

PS: How many psychologists does it take to change a light bulb?

1.... but the light bulbs gotta WANT to change!

lol :-P

Written by Gyps, 16. May 2008 02:14 AM

I agree with 'Gyps' that there would not be a lot of DepNet members that have had a hubby/partner there for them supporting them through the length of their depression...a lot of DepNet members have support from their partners but quite often the partner has no idea what depression is like unless they have been through it themselves...
I wonder why they specifically want a 'couple' for this story?...it does narrow down the amount of members on here that have some wonderful & sad stories to tell...heck 'Gyps' I need a coffee now after reading your Looooooooooooong post.
Hugs to everyone,
Nanna Val x0x

Written by Deleted_User, 16. May 2008 02:30 AM

Do that Val & you'll be peeing all night!!! Hehehe

Written by Gyps, 16. May 2008 03:16 AM