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Written by akita1970 19. Jun 2008 03:04 PM

I been thinking of saying this for awhile now. After posting this I'll log-off Depnet and swear off it for good.

Does the profound amount of false concern and cheesy melodrama on this site leave anyone else feeling nauseous and skeptical?

It doesnt feel right, and it certainly doesn't feel healthy. Seeing the same crap regurgitated again and again just in different vocalbulary isnt remotely helpful.

This so called "community" is nothing more than a popularity contest for mental pygmies (albeit one that has seriously perverse winning conditions...).

It's no coincidence that the most read diary entries (just check the number of hits to verify what i'm saying) are always those that are of the highest profile and frequently fueding members. Now that the fued has died down, the hits on the diaries have dropped dramatically.

This site is supposed to be therapuetic but seems to have de-evolved into 'distraction-therapy' only. This is no more theraputic than a soap-opera.

I for one believe that (and I'm being conservative..) perhaps less than two thirds of all entries are genuine. Most smack of over-exaggerated melodrama and attention seeking self-aggrandizement.

"betcha I have it worse than you!!!!" seems to be the unwritten catch-cry of Depnet.com. One-upmanship abounds: intellect, common sense and genuine sincerity does not.

The most prolific diary writers seem to think that they are somehow benefiting the broader depressed community by dribbling on & on about their frigging emotional pain and dysfunctional families... and then they actually thrive on the attention..?? WTF???

What a bog-standard Blog site this has become.

Most suffers of mental illness will never see three square meals a day much less be able to log onto a computer every 4hours and bleat to the pale unwashed masses about how hard it is to do the fucking housework amd how much they are annoyed by some member of their over-fed family.

More people around the world are suiciding than ever before. More are dying from war, disease, famine and tyranny. More children are being sold as sex slaves in Asia and eastern Europe yearly than the population of my WHOLE city. Do you think those kids will have the luxury of bleating to a cyber-audience? Most wont even survive the experience.... those that do will consider themselves even less fortunate than those that dont.

get over yourselves.

This site is good at convincing you that you are helping when you are actually doing nothing. Nothing to help yourselves, nothing to help others.

And all the while back at the Lundbeck institute this data gets collected, collated, dissected and processed as some purile, socialite wannabe Psychology student's latest attempt at passing off the re-hashed results of this website as a doctoral thesis, all so daddy will make good on his promise for a new Porsche and matching wardrobe.

Maybe I'm being too hasty. Perhaps this cesspool of self-pity called Depnet actually HAS helped me feel less depressed, because I certainly dont feel depressed right now, just really, really, REALLY angry.

I'm so angry I intend to actually do something other than log on to this infantile crap and get even more depressed by reading page after page of dull, monotonous dribble.

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Comments from the community:

If it isn't for you..ok. Attacking absolutely everyone here is really inappropriate. I think whether this site benefits or not depends on whether one establishes relationships with others, or at least that is true for me. Hope you find something more helpful Akita.
All the best.

Written by maple, 19. Jun 2008 04:00 PM

Pity, u always write articulate, thought provoking posts...
Personally-
1- A member told me bout a med Im now on that stops th side effects of my antideps
2- 3 members, each in diff states, called th cops 1 nite wen I was in crisis, averting tragedy

Written by Gyps, 19. Jun 2008 04:18 PM

3- Ive made many solid cyber friends who r ALWAYS there thru good & bad
4- Ive had th pleasure of meeting several members & th friendship has spilled ova in2 real life
5- th trust & help is ALSO given in REAL LIFE by MANY members 2 me & vice versa
6- its

Written by Gyps, 19. Jun 2008 04:22 PM

Thru constant nagging, support & a stern kick up th arse (B1) that sum FINALLY get up th courage 2c a psych
7- its thru shared experiences that we realise altho we may b nutty we're NOT alone!
8- its talkin 2 others that've gone thru similar that we

Written by Gyps, 19. Jun 2008 04:26 PM

Realise wot we're feelin ISNT rite & we need 2 go bac 2 th doc.

Could go on 4eva but my ph got disconnected so no internet, doin this via my mobile hence short comments.
But Im not sposed 2 leave multiple short comments via my ph or use txt lingo so.....

Written by Gyps, 19. Jun 2008 04:30 PM

good on you akita. tc

Written by Deleted_User, 19. Jun 2008 05:52 PM

No-one should frequent a site that makes them angry. What works for one, doesn't for another.

Just to clear up the little paragraph on the Institute....I can assure you, there is no psychology student (or other person) collecting, collating and dissecting your diaries for personal research...not what this is all about.




Written by Moderator, 19. Jun 2008 06:47 PM

Akita

Well said!!!

Take care and I hope you find something that helps you.

Go Akita!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 19. Jun 2008 08:16 PM

Akita

If you want to save the whole world, go join the Red Cross or Medicins Sans Frontiers. I'm sure they could use an intelligent, highly trained military man such as yourself.

Just leave the rest of us to cope as best as we can.

This is not the place for cynics or bitter and twisted, negative souls.

Written by Deleted_User, 19. Jun 2008 08:41 PM

dear akita
I challenge much of what you say. Your comment about "false concerns", is just so wrong. I don't feel "nauseous" from entries. I feel sympathy.

This site is not "inhabitated by mental pygmies". "Emotional pain" and "dysfunctional families" are very real and the source of much depression.

Your diary entry of 11 June is much nearer to the truth.

A dear friend of mine did not throw himself under a train because he was a "mental pygmy". He had a PhD.

I do find "intelligent, common sense and genuine sincerity" on this site. I am sorry you do not.

Yes, sometimes there are things said here which would be better left unsaid. But that is the nature of mental illness. I know I have helped people on this site, as others have helped me. (Read the comments on my diaries.)

I hope you will reconsider your comments and I wish you well.
Peter

Written by surfer, 19. Jun 2008 08:47 PM

I'm sorry you feel this way about the site, however no one is forcing you to be here. If you believe our concern is false, so be it. If you believe we're all overfed mental pygmies with no real concerns in the world, so be it. The reality is, you don't know us, just as we don't know you and for the most part don't know each other, so do not hasten to judge what you do not know.

Attacking us isn't going to solve the problems in the world you speak of - I have often felt the same way since I came back from Africa a few years back, but the fact is pain is pain, and pain cannot be compared. It can be talked about, shared, expressed, but never compared because no intersection of past pain and present experience is ever the same in people.

Attacking people for expressing their problems, whether or not you feel they are justified, is out of line, and I suggest that this is not the place for you.

Written by babz, 20. Jun 2008 01:39 AM

The effort requred to debunk your critique of this site is not worth my effort.

You have the option to leave at any time, you have the option to stay and write more about how you feel, you have the option to use the computer or not.

Please excercise the option that will reduce this anger in you, please stop spreading mistruths and opinion that are not founded.

As a previous suffer of massive anger I wish you well, drop the anger - get a perspective - grow .

Regards

Liz

Written by keller, 20. Jun 2008 02:16 PM

akita,

thankyou for your kind comments on my last to posts and for making me feel so welcome
may the universe lift you up and give you love
and may the angels protect you in your recovery and throughout your life

peace forever

isis

Written by isis, 10. Jul 2008 03:15 AM

Hi Akita,
Thanks for your reply to my diary entry. I really appreciate your comments and compliments. Having only read your latest post I identify and agree with what you say, although I haven't been on depnet often enough to really comment. I can say that I do seem to think along similar lines, however I have found some genuine and sincere people here.
Willow

Written by Deleted_User, 22. Jul 2008 12:00 PM