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Hellhole

All you can do is take one day at a time and get through it as the best as you can.

As for your kids, no one knows how they will turn out until they have grown up. You can and I am sure you do try your best and for a single mum with depression that is a great achievement. Keep trying to have a good relationship with both of them and hopefully they will grow up with a positive attitude towards women.

Go Hellhole!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 13. Apr 2008 01:53 AM

Don't be so hard on yourself. It isn't easy being a single mum, and the dads are the ones that decided to leave you on your own.

Enjoy your time with your kids, as they are prescious and only young once, and they need someone to love them, they need a mum. So Please stay safe and think positive (as hard as that may seem). Try and think of ten good things in your life- i'm sure there are some.

Stop blaming yourself and just enjoy your kids and motherhood.

take care, love em

Written by esp, 13. Apr 2008 02:37 AM

Hi Hellhole,

Just wanted to say that maybe you're not the great screwup that you percieve you are. You're a mother! That's an amazing gift in itself. You have the opportunity to teach, share, love and enjoy a couple of wonderful boys. I wouldn't worry too much that the men in your life cleared out. Sure, it makes it much harder, but things happen for a reason in this life and there will be others who can meet their needs in that 'dad' kind of way.

The main thing not to do if you don't want to screw them up, is to be overprotective, worrying, and confiding the secrets of your heart in them as though they were a substitue partner for you.

They never will be, and your job, I believe is to take great delight in watching your boys grow up.

:)

Take good care of yourself.

Written by g463, 13. Apr 2008 01:12 PM