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Written by hellhole 17. Feb 2008 09:58 PM

Try as i may to look at the positives, i have a beautiful boy & soon will have another, & tell myself they have there mum & thats all they need we can make it on our own. The negatives still seem to be the focus on my mind. I think of how much ive screwed up everything in my life, pushed everyone i cared about away, & am afraid il do the same to my boys lives & i dont want that, so my thought goes back to wouldnt they be better off without me.

It my sons birthday in a couple of weeks, he'll be 3. But were not having a big party this year. Not a lot to celebrate at the moment. Im seven months pregnant, exhausted, depressed & alone. I got no friends to invite, neither his father or his dada (my ex who was more of a dad to him) will be there, most of my family dont talk to each other. So im just going to have a little dinner with his fav foods at my mum & dads, the only people we have any contact with atm. How sad is that, my only remote companion is my parents. But theres a lot they dont know & i wont talk to them about they never understand.

I booked into the hospital the other day, stupid me was honest with them when they got to the mental health question (they asked a million questions) & that i think was a big mistake, she then started talking down to me, talking about DOCS & social workers, counselors, directing the questions to my mum & not me. Particularly when i said i was going off my meds soon so it doesnt effect the baby. She looked at me and was talking like as soon i go off i will endanger my son & try to kill him or something. Im not a psychopath & i resent the implication. I hadnt even told my mum i was on meds so that was a surprise to her. She said i shouldve kept me mouth shut when we left or i could lose the kids & id only have myself to blame.

thats about all i have to say at the moment, feel free to comment but please make criticisms constructive.

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Comments from the community:

Hell...

You have a lot of courage bringing a child into the world... you have done well... and your little boy is lucky to have you... you remembered his birthday and are trying to make it special for him... once you have the baby... and are back on your meds again... and have adjusted to your baby and 3 yo at home ...maybe you could join a playgroup for your little boy and you... so you get out and meet new people... and develop new friendships...

As to the hospital ... you will always meet ignorant people... I am glad you told them.. I am sad they treated you so badly ... you are as good a mother as anyone ... better in fact because you are responsible and take meds when you need them ... and you care for your little boy even on your own... and it is good you still have a good relationship with your parents... they are a good resource for you...

take courage you only have a couple of months left to go... and you will be home again with a new baby... make sure you have lots of support from the people you love... take care... and congratulations on the new baby to come...

rgds
cate

Written by cateblack, 17. Feb 2008 10:54 PM

Hell

Cate is right.

You have your three year old and he will see his grandparents for his birthday - that is a good thing for all of you - some quality time with the family.

As for the hospital, you needed to be honest and I am proud of you for being honest. I am sorry they treated you so degradingly (not sure if that's a word but it is now). The person should be reported. You are the best mum for your 3 year old and pending son. You will hopefully be back on your meds and hopefully able to get out and about with the two of them so join a mother's group to get out of the house/4 walls and let the 3 year old wear himself out with the other kids. Hope all works out for you all.

Go Hell!!!

Studying1

Written by studying1, 17. Feb 2008 11:21 PM