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Written by hellhole 9. Aug 2008 10:05 PM

As i hit an all time low i find myself having to move with my kids back to my folks. They dont feel i can care or support them properly by myself physically, emotionally or financially. My boys have different dads neither are there for them. One pays child support but only comes round a couple of times a year, the other deserted us when i was pregnant, refuses to sign the birth certificate so he doesnt have to pay child support, but yet sought legal action against me for visitation rights. Because im not geting child support im losing a big chunk of my pension as a penalty from centrelink, coping a $1200 fine for birth certificate not processed within 60 days, i sent it there they sent it back wont do it without fathers signature. Legal aid wont help me case not enough, said all i can do is mediation which is expensive, if that dont work then court. So with all this & my bills i am struggling. So instead of moving forward im having to move backwards & move in with my parents. They think they can do a better job with my kids then i can. that they need a family environment & i cant give them that. Im pretty sure they just want the kids not me & will do what they usually do when we visit & take over everything brush me aside & criticise everything i do. So im in the process of moving eeverything now. A lot of our stuff will have to go to storage for we dont have room for it, other stuff i'll have to get rid of. I'm not sure if im making a big mistake...

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Comments from the community:

What a shithouse sytem. I am sorry you are doing it tough but pleased you will have some help and support
with the 2 little ones. All new Mothers, all Mothers really, hate being told what to do re their children so try not to take it personally eh? It's just what families do.
All the best hellhole.

Written by maple, 9. Aug 2008 11:05 PM

Hi hellhole

I know its a horrible thing to have to do but you could send the birth certificate in with father unknown, they cant reject that and considering he wont sign it well thats his problem, it would solve yours and you can always get it changed later, if not explain to your child when they are older as to why you did it.

All the best Al

Written by Al1970, 10. Aug 2008 01:25 PM

wow, i feel so silly having my meltdowns now
you poor thing! thats such a stupid system!!!!
hope things look up for you
xx
Amy

Written by Awoods, 22. Aug 2008 08:12 PM