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Written by Mikey 23. Aug 2008 09:10 PM

Ive had a crapy week and abit, ive been in hospital with asthma one night, and my mood has came crashing down again.
Some of you may know i drive buses for a living. On Thursday i had run in with a number of drivers.
Monday morning i was on my way to the city (not in service) when i saw another driver coming out of the city with not in service, at the time i thought that was odd. I started my trip as usaual, but had a heaps of people abusing me, because a bus hadnt turned up and not to mention the extra loading i had. I was pissed off, then i realised that the driver i saw coming out, was the one who was suppose to be infront opperating. That pissed me off even more, this driver is known for not doing his trips, and hs been getting away with it for years. When i got back to the depo, i said something to the depo inspector/supervisor, i was just venting steam. Anyway the D.I/ suppervisor said something to him and told him that i said it(of cause he denied what i said)
Later the other driver met up with me in the depo, and he let me have it, and telling me never to say anything to anyone again, otherwise there will be trouble, i thought it was going to come to the point of punches thrown. Alittle latter a few other drivers had ago at me, saying u dont dob in your mates (he isnt a mate) I turned around and said...well you shouldnt do what he did to mates either....Now i am in fear of my car being damaged at work, cause some of these people a capable of it. I feel management is scared of a few of them to, because they dont act on complaints by other drivers, or the place is just corrupt.
Another thing this driver has been doing for years to, is sitting behind other drivers for most of the trip, so he doesnt have to work, then when he does pass, puts up not in service and wipes the rest of the stops.

People who i thought where friends have turned against me.
So what do i do? do i make an official compliant and say what has happened and ask for the video to be pulled, and doing so, my superviser/D.I will get in shit too, for telling him.
I havent done anything wrong, and im being harrassed and bullied.
When i came home from work that day and heard that collen the whale wasnt doing well and probably was going to be put down, that ended me, i broke down, it was the final straw.

Just another Question has anyone used Lexapro, and did they have any side effects with it?

Take care

Mikey

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Comments from the community:

Hi Mikey

to me bullying is just that, and should be not tollerated, however they may make your job unpleasant.
Personally I would ask for the video, and be prepared for the consequences, It will not be easy or nice to be there after, since your freinds have already turned agaist you. If you can get another job easly then do it, otherwise let sleeping dogs lay.

I have been on lexapro 80mg per day taken at night for 2 years now, and I didn't have any side affects, and also the most beneficial to me.

good luck with it.

Marie

Written by 1990, 23. Aug 2008 09:37 PM

Mikey

you are damned if you do report and you are already damned if you don't ... you better believe management already know about your work colleague and they let him get away with it...

if you have proof like a video that they can not dispute then you have some standing... and they may take it further...

you said ppl you thought were friends have turned... then the reality is that they are not friends...

if you blow the whistle then you risk being isolated... and work may become very risky for you...

not sure about the meds... lexapro.. i haven't taken it... i don't think...

think carefully if you are able to fight the case about the driver and stay mentally healthy...

take care

rgds
cate

Written by cateblack, 23. Aug 2008 09:55 PM

Someone's gotta have the balls to put an end to it.

We had a driver down here when I started high school, he already had a well established rep for harassing anything in a skirt, no matter how young, but everyone turned a blind eye.
He was finally fired when I was bout 20 coz he finally targeted the wrong (12yo) who told her folks.
Everyone, including drivers all knew he did it, including telling bout his exploits with a vibrator to 13yo's.
End it Mike, enoughs enough.
Make it formal & put work on notice.

Written by Gyps, 23. Aug 2008 09:55 PM

Hey Mikey,
Sorry to hear about your horrible week. Hope your asthma is OK - I have it too, I know how much of a pain in the ass it can be.

I think you should make a report. Bullies thrive on power - you standing up to them takes away that power. I don't know if it's possible but if you're worried about the car park it somewhere in full view of a busy place or security camera. Perhaps consider parking a block away from work if you're really worried. I really hope it works out for you. Aside from that, I think you should stand up to this lazy prick who isn't doing his job and in the process is mucking things up for commuters relying on him.

As for the Lexapro, I was on it late last year and got side effects. Was wired as anything and couldn't sleep for entire nights and got these wierd hallucination type things. Like anything that moved across my field of vision left a long trail. After a while it got to the point that if I looked at anything too long my vision would go completely dark and I couldn't see anything. Was really freaky.

Written by babz, 23. Aug 2008 11:16 PM

Hi Mikey,

Hope you are feeling better now with your Asthma.
It is hard to know what to do bout this other Driver. Like eventually if you dont do anything he will get fired, but that could be in 5 yrs time! So if you do take it officially then it would hurry up the process, but at what cost to you and your well-being.

I think when we have Depression we need to pick our battles carefully and ask ourselves is it worth the effort? Like would it make our life more peaceful and if the answer is Yes then go for it. If not leave it alone.

You will find that sometimes leaving it alone, that someone else is usually more pissed off than you are and they will Dob the bugger in and so problem solved and you wont have to lift a finger.

I wish you all the best Mikey and hope it all works out for you and how you want it too.

(((((hugs)))))

Written by cherry1, 24. Aug 2008 06:56 AM

That work problem is a real dilemma. Is there just one other driver who can join with you? It is very hard when you are on your lonesome. Sorry about the asthma.
Peter

Written by surfer, 24. Aug 2008 11:29 AM

Thankyou all for all your coments.
Im not the kind of person who goes dobbing someone in, i did tell the D.I/supervisour what he did, but he hasnt got the power or authority to do anything. The reason i asked the question "what do i do?" is because of the harrasment i have coped, should it be reported, just in case it does get worse. I dont just sit there and take it from him or anyone else, i wont let anyone try to stand over me, so this could get worse if i dont report it. Yet if i do report it, it could get worse too. As the coment made upove, im damned if i do and damned if i dont.

Thanks

Mikey

Written by Mikey, 24. Aug 2008 11:37 AM

Hi Mikey,
I suggest that you keep a diary for work. Dates, times, etc so if it goes further you have domumenation to prove harassment. My husband was accused of harassing a worker under his supervision. He kept well doucumented evidence and presented it to his bosses. It turned out the guy wasn't asked to do overtime. He was a labourer and only qualified tradespeple did o/time. It really stressed my husband but keeping the documentation stopped it from going further.
I am on Lexapro 10mg a day. Have been on it for about 20 months. The first month or so I had a few problems, but none since. It's the only antidepressant I have ever been on and has made my life "normal"
Take Care
Janene

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