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all i want is someone to take care of me...

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Written by cateblack 22. Feb 2008 10:38 PM

I seem to have regressed to being a child about things... i am making the conditions around me fit with my dream of being taken care of...

Trouble is that I want my health professionals to become my parents... I am trying to get my family to have me categorised as being mentally incompetent and take away my right to make my decisions... they said I have to make my decisions... I am telling them that I am not competent enough to make any decisions... and I want someone to come and cook and clean and shop for me like a carer but for no money... i want them to love me and that is why they will take care of me... i tried to talk to a friend today but she was bored with me and this... she has enough true problems and doesn't need to listen to mine... i wanted to laugh and she makes me laugh most times... she is very witty and bright... and intelligent... not like me...

my moods are down today... elevated yesterday... i walked out of group today... K really made me angry ... she broke the rules... and so it was not fair... Facilitator said it was an experiment and there were no rules... but i remember her saying 1 minute each... and K decided to do her own thing because it was her friend speaking... NOT FAIR... i stuck to the rules... there were others .,. i had to walk out or i would have said something nasty... i wrote the facilitator a note and told her i wasn't coming back... but she rang me and said for me to think about it... and explained i didn't realise that it was an experiment and that was why she didn't intervene... but she has a problem with me anyway... she said it felt like having a co facilitator when i was in the group... i told her i was supporting the facilitator and the women in the group... not running it... i am not sure what to do... do i go back and try again or do i quit ... i have been in this group since 1999 ... I am so angry with K and facilitator...

what did i do well today? I slept this afternoon... and helped organise a book sale... at least did not hinder the organisation of the book sale..

well that is all to report..

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Comments from the community:

Cate

Don't get your family to have you sectioned as you will loose all your rights to make decisions for yourself and I really hope you don't want that. You need the help and support of your family to do the things you want, cook, clean, and shop for you - the types of things they as a family should be doing to support you when you have a mental illness.

Sorry group didn't work out and you had to work out. You need to set some boundaries with the facilitator so you don't come off as a co facilitator - there should always be two people in group sessions, one facilitating and one observing group members for stress, tears, overtaking the group and the like. All the groups I have been to have two facilitators. Perhaps you could suggest that to the facilitator. They have to listen to suggestions. Not sure what the group is/funding situation but please consider going back, it gives you a routine and support which you need at this time.

Be strong Cate. Please don't have your family admit you involuntarily to hospital as you will probably end up in an intensive care unit/section of the psychiatritic hospital because they will assess you as a risk to yourself and I don't really think you are that. You are calling out for your family and health professionals to help you - call out louder hun.

Go Cate!!!

Studying1

Written by studying1, 23. Feb 2008 04:53 AM

Hey Cate, I think I understand a little about how you are feeling, although I know that I haven't felt anywhere near the depth of what you are feeling at the moment. I too have just wanted someone to look after me, my mother and father, although that really never did happen. It sounds like you need a break and some support Cate. Can your family help in anyway? I know that this isn't easy to hear and sometimes it is the hardest thing, but you need to treat yourself well if you can, you need to do those things for yourself that you want others to do. Even baby steps, one little thing at a time, til you start feeling stronger. If you feel that you are at risk though, make sure you see someone. Do you think that your group is helping you? Was it just a one of disagreement? If it is having some benefits for you I would encourage you to continue going Cate. Wishing you strength and companionship, Take care Cate, From Riles

Written by riles, 23. Feb 2008 10:47 AM

Dear Cateblack

I can really relate to what you have written. I also would like someone to take care of me. I find the concept of looking after myself and being responsible for myself daunting.

Sending you love,

Kimberly
xoxo

Written by newlife, 24. Feb 2008 01:45 PM

Keep slogging on Cate- you will be able to take care of yourself. No oone can do it exactly how you want it done- you will be your best carer- yoou won't have to answer to anyone else's rules or schedules- it's great. Just hard work sometimes. You're not psychotic- just feeling very needy. Do one tiny thing then tell yourself to do another, and another and if you keep going, eventually things will seem easier and you will be so proud you survived. Don't let the dopey disease get you- it doesn't go out and earn a good living and put a roof over your head- it's pretty bl**dy useless really! Tell it to buzz off and leave yoou alone- you will win!! Go Cate!

Written by Templdust, 6. Apr 2008 01:38 AM