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Sweetie dont let the negatives put you down.Just take that special little boy and cuddle him,life right now seems like its never going to end but you will get through this and have a good life what ever you choose.TC

Written by Deleted_User, 18. Jan 2008 06:53 PM

Lori,
Grannie has said exactly what I was thinking as I read your entry. Don't let the negative comments get you don hon, you don't need them. Please feel free to vent, it is good for the soul.
Take care and be kind to yourself
Love and Support Always
Lynne

Written by chookie67, 18. Jan 2008 06:55 PM

Dear Lori

I am also going through difficulties in my marriage and can relate to your situation and the different moods that you go through in response to it all - and I understand as I suspect over the next few months my diaries may be hot and cold about my own marriage - and hopefully we can continue to support each other through our diaries.

Re the comment you received - I hope you don't mind me writing this - and I certainly don't mean to upset you more - so please delete if you want to. I saw the comment - and it was quite abrupt - but I don't think it was really malicious. Sometimes reading other people's diaries can trigger stuff in ourselves and we may respond less tactfully than at other times.

It was only one comment Lori, and it might not have been warm and fuzzy but I do think that you took it more personally/defensively than you needed to as clearly your situation had triggered a reaction in the person that wrote the comment - so in many ways it may have reflected some of the issues that that person may be dealing with.

I think it is a pity that you didn't leave that diary entry up there (even if you chose to delete that particular comment) because you would have received a balance of responses - and I am confident that the overall message you would have received would have been of love, support, understanding and care. Maybe some comments would have challenged you a little - to think and question - but the people that wrote them would generally have been writing with love and concern for you.

With love

Kimberly
xoxo

Written by Wolveress, 18. Jan 2008 09:35 PM

Lori

The important thing is to be able to vent and if a diary comment upsets you, delete it. You have every right to say whatever you want/is on your me. I just think you need to be sure who said the comment because I think you have picked the wrong person - I could be wrong and fine if you are right then, do as Kim said, delete or think about it, if you are wrong and got the wrong person, you owe the person named an apology.

Be strong and take care. Hope you can get hubby to AA meetings with you. Fight for this marriage with all your strength - it is obvious you want to try and safe it and not give up.

Go Lori!!!

Studying1

Written by studying1, 19. Jan 2008 04:38 AM

Just wanted to say that you are very much in my thoughts today. Only you can know whether staying in your marriage is right for you, but i think the Al-Anon program is a great idea. Of course, no two groups are the same, but it is a group that has a lot of experience in helping people look after themselves while in relationship with an alcoholic. Please don't give up on all of us here!

Stay safe,
NB

Written by northrnbelle, 19. Jan 2008 09:44 AM