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Written by cherry1 12. Nov 2008 04:03 PM

Well Im wondering if I have made the right choice by agreeing with bubs father having him for an overnite stay and two full days. I can still smell Alcohol on his breath but that doesnt mean he's had too much to drink or does it???

He drove bubs back to the contact centre, said he was on an extra-ordinary License for work....hmmmmm well he wasnt driving to and from work, he was picking up and dropping off our son. Not sure what to think.

His first overnite stay with our son will be next weekend and Im sorta worried about it all. I know its normal in this situation but I cant stop thinking about how things will be for Bubs.

Thankyou gyps for all your info... husband and I are now on talking terms so we have spoken alot about child support and all the other stuff. I no longer will need to pack a bag as Husband is going to supply everything bubs needs while he is staying there so thats pretty good.

We have agreed to communicate about anything to do with our son, like eating, sleeping, how bubs has been, that sort of thing. I do hope all goes well for both our son and for hubby. Im leaving it in Gods good hands coz that all I can do really.



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Comments from the community:

Hi cherry

What lots of families do is have a communication book that goes with the child. Each parent can write anything relevant in it. This way neither is having to remember everything at handover time.

Best of luck

Jenny

Written by jennytmaher, 12. Nov 2008 06:34 PM

Observe without being overly critical is all you can do. You have been very generous and will just need at this point to trust people to do the right thing until you see otherwise. And if you see something unacceptable in general terms not just your standards
then address it then.
All the best.

Written by purple, 12. Nov 2008 08:37 PM

Cherry

Not sure about the alcohol and the licence but it is good you are both talking to each other about bubs. Pack a bag of things for the first weekend in case hubby hasn't got everything. Better to be safe than sorry. Don't push it in his face, just tell him you thought it would be an idea to have a spare set of things in case he didn't get a chance to get everything.

Go Cherry!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 12. Nov 2008 11:53 PM

Cherry plan something for yourself the first weekend bubs is away.Keep yourself occupied. Otherwise you will spend the week end worrying and stressing about bubs. I have a communication book for my grandsons they spend week about visitation. Its a good thing to have and it saves alot of problems. Have a good restful weekend. TC

Written by Deleted_User, 13. Nov 2008 12:21 AM