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Written by psyche 4. Jun 2007 11:06 PM

Hi anyone,
I've been feeling sad, scared, paniced, self harming, like I'm stuck in a black tunnel with no way out, totally terrified, lonely and alone for the last 16 years of my life, sure it goes up and down but it never goes away, it never gets better. I read all these entries about recovery and I wonder when mine is going to come? How do I make it happen? I see a psychologist every week, I take 75mg of effexor (even 450 mg did nothing), take 15mg valium at night because I'm addicted, it doesn't even do anything anymore, I can't sleep till 3am most nights, I'm on nexium because I have stomach ulcers because I'm so stressed all the time - So when is this recovery going to happen? When am I going to be together and normal? Do I need a different medication? would that make it easier? When do people recover? When does this get better - better enough for me to function like a normal human being? Not asking for much, just being able to get up before 8, take my kids to school, study during the day, pick them up from school, cook them dinner and put them to bed, or take them out on a saturday. I want friends and have none and don't know why anyone would want to be my friend anyway.
Oh, and because my lan is telling me to - the one thing I am doing to take care of myself, is moving away from my psychologically abusive husband. Don't know how it'll work with the kids though. Sigh.
A

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Comments from the community:

Hi psyche,

I am not a big fan of the term "recovery", I tend to call it "management", we get to a point where we manage this bastard illness and don't let it run our lives anymore.( coz lets face it, we can;t run our lives much worse than the depression, can we?)
Its something that may never go away completely but is something that you learn to live with and keep under control.
This is just my personal view however and that doesn't make it correct. We all need to learn to deal with this monster in our own way.
I think that moving away from your abusive partner is a great step and you will probably be surprised at the change in yourself for making such a brave move.

It can't hurt to go and have a chat with your doctor about your meds though, sometimes they can stop working.

Good luck psyche.

Hugs, Kitty

Written by Deleted_User, 4. Jun 2007 11:12 PM

hey Psyche,
sorry to hear that things arent going to well for you, but remember this: if you look up at the sky, there will be someone in that big wide world, who is looking up at the sky and is feeling the same way as you...so now I am waiting for you to look up at the sky at the same time as me :-)...believe it or not, but not everyone on here is in "recovery"...some are, and I am totally proud of them, but some may not be quite there yet (me and you), we will get there. and what'd this about you not having friends??? why wouldn't we want to be your friends??? THATS IT MISSY! you are officially in my depnet friends list, take that! i'm sure you have many many more, who wouldn't want to be your friend? you know what...if ever you need to talk, (even though i'm hardly ever on chat) you can have my email, or whatever works... just take care, good luck with your recovery

Written by Deleted_User, 4. Jun 2007 11:29 PM

I would love to be your friend
love
Becci

Written by Deleted_User, 5. Jun 2007 01:33 AM

Hey Psyche
I too am wondering when my recovery is going to happen. I have done what I can - tried to be positive etc, but at the end of every day I am a mess- tears and shit. I have told my uncaring bastard of a partner that I want to move on with my life but he is still hanging in the foreground, tormenting me. He talks to me like I am crap, treats me like dirt and it is quite clear I am nothing to him, so why can't he just stop texting, calling etc and let me start a fresh new life. Until then I don't think my recovery is going to happen.
I wish you better luck than I'm having though!
Cheers
Cheyne

Written by hippiechick, 7. Jun 2007 01:12 AM

I forgot to add that I would like to be your friend too!!!
: D
Cheyne x

Written by hippiechick, 7. Jun 2007 01:14 AM