My new rules
A page in the diary "Good mourning!"
Written by Luise 7. Sep 2007 08:59 PM
1) Listen to my heart.
2) Everything that feels right for me is right for me, even if it is different from the "usual".
3) I am an individual adult person with my own life. I can make my own decisions. I will not let my mother remote-control me. It's not the end of the world if I don't do what my mother wants. She has her priorities, I have mine. She is fearful, I am not. She is dependant in some ways (like she doens't drive), I am independant. She is immature in some ways, but she wants to tell me what to do. That doesn't fit. There is nothing wrong with my mother being immature and dependant, but she's not competent to tell me what to do with my life.
I KNOW what to do and I can trust my own feelings.
4) I accept my losses and my mourning. I will take the time to mourn and to digest my losses.
5) I am not afraid of showing my true self to people. I am not afraid of showing my sympathy.
6) I will be open and dinkum - this is the best way I can be, as it shows my respect for myself and for the people around me.
7) I will connect with people. I will be nice and helpful and not underrate the little social everyday situations. Every opportunity to connect with someone is good for my soul.
8) I will talk freely and honestly about my needs.
9) I respect my love and my longing for my canadian. I will not punish myself for having loved.
10) I will do my best to be a good friend to my friends.
11) I will do what is right for me. I will not force anything. I will not force myself to do something I'm not convinced of. I'm not a child who has to be educated. I'm free.
12) I will find my way like water: Strong but relaxed.
I will be relaxed enough to flow with the stream of my life, but I will not be passive. I will go my way without being distracted by others.
13) I will not run away. I will not be shallow.
14) I will enjoy life. I will keep my eyes open to all the little things that make life good.
15) I will listen to my intuition and make spontaneous decisions without too much thinking.
16) I will see every contact with other people as an opportunity to practice. I don't have to be "perfect", whatever that means - but I will do my best.
to be continued...