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A page in the diary "Good mourning!"
Written by Luise 16. May 2007 08:11 AM

Hi diary and everybody out there,

it's so easy to make me sad. Karin, one of my best friends has been retreating more and more over the last month. She didn't have much time for me. Usually we have always found an opportunity to spent time together without making an appointment, we just dropped in on eachother for a coffee or something. Since a while I feel as if it's me who always "needs" her and it's always too much for her. Today she cancelled an appointment and spoke on my answering machine that she has problems with her boyfriend (they live together and have a baby) and they will take some time just for themselves, without any people around.

I know it's not about me. It's about their problems and I know that she still likes me. But I still feel abandoned. Must be some childhood thing. Maybe my mother forgot me at the bus station one day. Shit, I'm just sad. She said they would try to keep their house free of people for some time, but I haven't been there so often in the last times, as I didn't want to go on their nerves. She's not my only friend on the world, but she's the one I like most. And I just hate when I lose someone without being able to do anything!!!

And the result: I desperately want to call canada and have a good cry on his shoulder. I just want to be loved. At least a little bit. Just by anyone.

I never thought I would write such an entry one day. I always wanted to keep this diary as a place where I work on my recovery. But this time I just wanted to tell somebody I'm sad.

Sorry.

Luise.

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Comments from the community:

You haven't lost her. And if you respect her wishes she will be back in no time as you will have shown you are not a pressure friend and therefore safe to have around.

Written by Deleted_User, 16. May 2007 09:08 AM

Hi Luise
It is normal to have sad days and friends are a really important part of our support network.She will be there when she has sorted out her problems.Maybe you could just write a card or emailand express your hope that she have better days. Having a baby can be stressful and she is probably not able to explain her side of things. Give her some space and remember that other people have different needs .
Try going for a walk or getting busy. Music can also help, but choose happy music!
Have a better day
love and support
Sue:)

Written by dontworrybehappy, 16. May 2007 01:10 PM

Dear Luise

It's ok to feel sad. Allow yourself to feel, and move through your feelings.

You're going to be ok.

Lots of love

Determined
xoxo

Written by Deleted_User, 16. May 2007 01:59 PM

Luise

I'm with Stanford. Respect her wishes and you and she will be back to that loving relationship you want/need.

Don't call Canada. Just have a good cry. There is nothing wrong with crying for a loss which you had no control over.

Go Luise!!!

Studying1

Written by studying1, 16. May 2007 07:10 PM

luise ,
easy for me to say but i would give her time to sort herself out .
in the mean time chill and viset your other friends
. maybe you could keep her informed of whats happening in your life and before you know it all will be back to normal .
:o) take care greenie xo

Written by greenie, 16. May 2007 10:11 PM