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Written by studying1 30. May 2008 02:49 PM

Migraine, meds and sleep. Hubby went out to return the wreathes to the storage shed.

Their memorial day went okay - didn't raise as much money as they hoped and it rained as the memorial started but they got through the day. I didn't go to hubby's day as I didn't want to spoil his hard work/day. He works very hard for this organisation and with me not well, it would have been wrong for me to attend and spoil his hard work/enjoyment of the day.

I am startled by the debate on the self harming. 2468 summarised it up the best and that was voyeristic. The other reference I liked is about casting the first stone if you have been wrong - sorry with all the replies in my diary, I can't remember who wrote that. It seems from the question I put to the moderators they are not happy with any one mentioning self harming in this diary and seem to be reviewing the etiquette of the diaries. They are aware that self harming is an illness and they will monitor diaries and take necessary action to delete/amend diaries if they feel they need the action. Gyps and all other self harmers, may be a good idea to read the letter that I wrote to the moderators so everyone could see it and if they have an issue with the question, put their own question to the moderators and I think the letter is the best way for all deppies to get to see the same question and same response. I am shocked by all the negative comments I got when I don't mention how or where I harm but admit I say I enjoy the thrill of seeing blood/enjoy the blood. I don't always get bleeding and that was my point. Sometimes people harm to get blood while others harm to get pain from it. Gyps I hope you are happy that I put it out there to the moderators in the letterbox and we now all understand where harming stands in regards to the moderators.

I am proud of myself that yesterday and today I haven't had a nanna nap. Hubby is asleep for his night shift. I have to wake him up so he can get ready for work.

Weather is wet and cold here and we are expecting it to get worse. I am trying to organise a get together with my bridesmaid and her family but her hubby has been a sticking point that sundays are family days - that's fine and we stay too late if we are there. Said to friend it is only once a month/two months - see if you can get hubby to change his mind. I don't want to loose her as a friend but I feel I will if we don't see each other but then if we go to Tassie, it will be an email relationship so maybe I should get used to this.

Take Care All!!!

Mrs Studying1

PS Ronda was my hubby and was concerned how depnet was affecting me - he saw it as very negative for me. We have deleted his profile because it was wrong for him to be here. We never set out to deceive you deppies. He just wanted to know about depnet for himself and now has an understanding of depnet and how it affects me. I am sorry if anyone thinks we set out to deceit you - never our intention. I should not have been accessing his profile and writing it. The things he put in his diaries were all true and nothing there was false/misleading.

Mrs Studying1

PS Lesley, Can you please put your entry back into my diary. I accidentally deleted it when I meant to delete another users entry.

Take Care All!!!

Mrs Studying1

Sadface and Maple, this was not a game or deception at all. Ronda is my nickname for hubby and he wanted to join depnet to find out what it was like for himself and see why it affects me in certain ways - negatively sometimes/positively sometimes. Sadface, it was my fault, I didn't sign out of my profile and hubby came and wrote his entries and you were the one who picked up the error - stupid error - I should have made sure I was out of my profile. Again this was not meant to upset, deceive people but to get an understanding of an internet site that I spend my life with and hubby hasn't been able to understand this and decided he would join to find out why I love the people/site even with the criticisms I get.

Lesley, Thanks for reentering your entry. Much appreciated. May call you as I have your numbers so we can meet and chat.

Take Care All!!!

Mrs Studying1

PS Maple - we did not do this to critise people but to allow hubby to understand my obsession with depnet. I don't always agree with your suggestions and the one you made to me yesterday is one I don't agree with. We are all entitled to our opinions and I will respect that fact but the self harming comment upset me and it is my problem not yours to overcome. I am glad you will accept me still in depnet because this was never meant to hurt, upset or degrade people. I don't believe hubby did that to anyone's diary he commented in - from what I read, he was supportive to people, just like he is in life. I hope you are doing well after your surgery and with the help you are getting. Hope S has been to see you/support you.

Take Care Maple!!!

Mrs Studying1

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Comments from the community:

Mrs Studying1

I think you did the right thing and put the question to the moderators via the letterbox. Everyone can be on the same understanding and if people have further questions they can add them to the letterbox.

Glad you read no nanna naps. Keep up the good work.

Ronda

Written by studying1, 30. May 2008 02:54 PM

studying1,

Was going to comment on your diary and then found something very interesting. I noticed that not long after you joined a new member came on and was very much offended at people and what they were saying to you. This user was Ronda.

I therefore am confused that the comment below is to you, supposedly from Ronda but written by you? It has your user name on the comment, as per below.


Comments from the community:

Mrs Studying1

I think you did the right thing and put the question to the moderators via the letterbox. Everyone can be on the same understanding and if people have further questions they can add them to the letterbox.

Glad you read no nanna naps. Keep up the good work.

Ronda

Written by studying1, 30. May 2008 01:54 PM


Why would you do this? Everyone here is to help but creating a new user name to stick up for you, that is written by yourself, that is deceiving to say the least. Writing diaries to stick up for yourself under another username is somewhat dishonest.

Sorry if this offends you but from what others have said you are always helpful and supportive, so why would you be dishonest like this?

Written by Deleted_User, 30. May 2008 03:18 PM

Sadface

I am mrs studying1's hubby and I have been concerned about depnet on her so I joined and hoped no one would find out we were here as hubby and wife but we stuffed up. No offence or meanness was meant. I am just very concerned about depnet and my wife, so I joined to find out about depnet myself.

Ronda

Written by Deleted_User, 30. May 2008 03:29 PM

Classic example of you self harming studying is hurting yourself on here where you are so dependant. Lucky we all know and care for you anyway so I reckon a quick apology and a low profile for awhile will see you through, don't hurt yourself over this stupid attention seeking day you seem to be having.
All the best.

Written by maple, 30. May 2008 03:32 PM

PS Sadface

If you look at my wife's diaries/membership, she has been here since 2006 I think and I have only been here for about a week. I spoke to her psychiatrist about this site and I thought for me to get a better understanding of the site, I would join. We had no intention of hurting people, ripping people off. I just am trying to find out about depnet and how it affects my wife and that was all. I only told her I had joined before as I was on the computer after her. Please accept my apologies for this. There was not malice meant just a hubby worried about his wife.

Ronda

Written by Deleted_User, 30. May 2008 03:33 PM

Sadface and other deppies

Ronda is my hubby and he has been concerned about depnet and my reliance on it so he joined and I stuffed up.

I am very sorry, no harm was meant. It was just so hubby could find out about depnet and how it affects me.

Sorry everyone!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 30. May 2008 03:37 PM





Mr and Mrs studying........


This wont be the same as be4fore because I have forgotten what I wrote. I do think that its great how your MR has taken the interest and come onto Dep to see first hand how things go here for you. I am not happy with the way things have progressed over the last couple of days with the criticism over Mrs.

I am off for another week at least after my operation and would love to meet up for a coffee with the pair of you if you have the time.

Hang in there Mrs S, youre made of tougher stuff than the crap youve had hurled at you.

GO MR AND MRS STUDYING!!!!!!!!!

Love Lesley xxxxx

Written by lesleyk, 30. May 2008 05:53 PM

It is a game. Your Husband wasn't even writing his own diary. I'm sure your Husband is most welcome as himself and look forward to getting to know him. Most of the stuff which applies to this situation has been deleted so unfortunately others just won't get it. However, we all have our problems....and will continue to support each other I am sure as best we can.

Written by maple, 30. May 2008 07:35 PM

studying1,

Thanks for the apology but none needed. Just asked why you did it.

I would be concerned if my hubby joined and looked at diaries I had written, especially as some of yours have issues in them that you said he knows nothing about, and the comments you made about him just before you got married.

I asked the question to Ronda if they knew studying1 as I felt something was not quite right (intuition I think they call it), and was told something like "no why do our diaries sounds similar? Why lie, that what got to me the most, a straight out lie.

Do not get upset by this I am just saying how I feel as a newbie. I have had some chats with great people on here but will not be coming back if I come across anymore of these lies or games.

Written by Deleted_User, 30. May 2008 08:22 PM

U seriously want support wen u outright lied & deceived & continue 2 do so???
U claim no malice was intended & yr hubby didnt lie in his replies-well no HE DIDNT COZ U FREELY ADMITTED 2 WRITING THEM YOURSELF!!!
Then u hav th nerve 2 say u didnt know he'd

Written by Gyps, 30. May 2008 10:09 PM

Joined? Then how th hell could u access his profile & write his comments???
Stop protesting yr innocence wen yr as guilty as sin!
In response 2 yr challenge 2 me- I'll respond in my own diary seeing as how yr deleting comments off here that show u stuffed

Written by Gyps, 30. May 2008 10:12 PM

Up or that criticise yr pathetic deception that was merely 2 drum up support & get ppl agro @ others!
I read yr letter 2 th mods but u seem 2 hav missed th meaning behind part of th reply. Seein how u wont listen 2 any1 else may I respectfully suggest u

Written by Gyps, 30. May 2008 10:16 PM

Write them another letter askin wot precisely they deem as "glorifying" selfharm!
Send it 2 th letterbox so we can all read th response.
I hope u took note of their comment on my post? No more headings bout selfharm Stud!
U gonna leave this or delete it??

Written by Gyps, 30. May 2008 10:20 PM