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Going to Court - risk loosing my house if I loose the case!!!

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Written by studying1 12. May 2008 08:16 PM

Migraine, meds and sleep. Finally got to sleep after hubby went to the doctor. He has an unusual skin infection on his legs and she prescribed him some cream for the legs and his face but he didn't get the face cream.

I got up and was having lunch when he finally came home - he thought his appointment was at 9.30 am but it was 10.30 am qld time. He wasn't home long before we had to go to the solicitor and make a decision about the court case - settle for $50 - 60K and end up after paying everyone their money about $2k if I accepted that offer or go to court. She answered all my questions and we are off to court for up to 10 days. Only concern is if I loose the case, I will have to pay the courts costs and I could loose the house and that is dam scary!!! Not going to tell Queem Bee that. Now it is up to the solicitor and the barrister to wave the magic so I get a payout that I deserve for the treatment that I got with work - bullying, discrimination, unfair treatment.

Okay now for the diary comments/answers -

Gyps - Queen Bee was paying lots of our debts/bills from when I lost my job and I owe her money which will either come from the court case or TPD payout if I get it. When we got married, I was allowed to keep the credit card but we had to pay all the debts and we have been doing that and now because we are paying our way, Queen Bee doesn't have financial control over us. We should have gotten married earlier.

Sad - I am happy Queen Bee hasn't called me but I don't understand the sudden change in her behaviour - not calling us like she did previously every day and we would often end up fighting. The no calling from her is just out of character and something I don't understand what has caused it - again perhaps we should have gotten married earlier and then there wouldn't be all the screaming phone calls that have happened for so long with Queen Bee and hubby and Queen Bee and I.

Cate and Fly and other deppies - please prayer that I will win the court case and I don't loose my house or I can access my super for financial hardship and pay the costs if the TPD doesn't come through. Still waiting to hear from the expert QSuper to call me about PPD and TPD payouts and I left another message on their answering machine on the weekend. They certainly don't know what client service is.

The letter to the wedding venue was resent today while we were doing some shopping and sorting out bills. Not sure if hubby got his portable navigator sorted out with Hervey Norman - forgot to ask him that question. He cracked a narnie at me for buying my frozen meals when there were supposedly lots still in the house - there was hardly any because he has been eating them as well as I have. I have two a day and he has been having one/two a day. Was reminded today about the soup and I said to hubby he could make it but he said he didn't know how so I quickly told him what to do but it will be probably me making the soup tomorrow/this week.

Take Care All!!!

Mrs Studying1

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Comments from the community:

Call me stupid but I still dont get how a piece of paper's made u financially independant from Queen B! If u two can support yourselves now y couldnt u before? Or are u guys just livin on credit? How have u got extra money so u no longer rely or her???

Written by Gyps, 12. May 2008 08:37 PM

Mrs Studying1......

I am wishing you all the best in your court case and I hope everything turns out well for you. You don't need anymore worries.

As far as Queen Bee goes, Hun enjoy the peace and quiet, but lets just hope it's not the calm before the storm.
All the best with your Court case and my best wishes are with you.

Love Lesley xxx

Written by lesleyk, 12. May 2008 08:47 PM

Hi Mrs Studying 1,

Will be sending all the positive energy I can muster for a great outcome for you with the court case.

Warm wishes,

Fly (Karen) xxx

Written by fly, 12. May 2008 08:58 PM

Mrs Studying1

Best of luck for the court case...

Sorry not able to think... take care

rgds
cate

Written by cateblack, 12. May 2008 11:31 PM

Good luck with the court case hunny. You are in my thoughts. Keep strong.

Love, care and support always
Amanda xxxxx

Written by Deleted_User, 12. May 2008 11:51 PM

Parents-theoretically-r sposed 2 support their daughter. But once she gets married she becomes the husbands responsibility.
If u can support yourselves now u shouldve ALWAYS done so.
Q B feels used, betrayed, unwanted, unneeded & cast aside Hence no calls

Written by Gyps, 13. May 2008 05:51 AM

Also given th fact u were livin with hubby as husband & wife 4 HOW long? He shoulda been supporting u th entire time. & none of this crap bout him movin in 2 look after u, u were livin as husband & wife, simple as that!
& u wonder y Q B was always shitty?

Written by Gyps, 13. May 2008 05:56 AM

Plus u predominantly argued with Q B about money. Given SHE was th 1 payin 4 lots of stuff she had every right 2 question your expenditure! Sorry, but she did!
And truth b told your an argumentative person who seems 2 enjoy fighting, harsh but true. Sorry

Written by Gyps, 13. May 2008 06:02 AM

I am at a loss to offer any sort of advice about going to court. I shouldn't try, it has to be yur decision. All I can say is to wish you success. Best wishes.
Peter

Written by surfer, 13. May 2008 07:01 AM

studying1,

I just read your last diary entry and maybe as you are paying your way on the credit card now she does not feel the need to ring and have a go at you as it will not be stressing her out anymore. Maybe the only reason she used to ring was to whinge about money and now that she does not have to do that, there is no reason for her to ring you? Surely there was a reason you waited so long to get married and not get married earlier? Enjoy the peace and quiet.

Best of luck with the court case. Hope you have someone other than hubbie to confide in with this as you will need all the support you can get to get through those 10 days and the aftermath. Stay strong and focus on the fact that after those 10 days, it is out of your hands and lies in the hands of God.

Also sounds like hubbie is having a few narnie cracks lately with you. Hope it all pans out okay and you can work through the issues, being newlyweds.

Take care and hugs for all you are going through.

Written by Deleted_User, 13. May 2008 11:03 AM

good luck with the court case, sounds like once it is over you will have some breathing space. but all sounds very complicated and hope you dont loose the house that would be just devistating, so l wish you lots and lots of luck,will be thinking of you .so take care for now
regards
rubee ''''''

Written by rubee, 13. May 2008 11:18 AM

studying1,

Sorry forgot a comment. As you suffer daily from migraines and need to take meds and sleep, I really hope that you have a great support network and coping strategies in place that will allow you to go to court when you need to.

As I am no expert, what happens if you have a bad migraine the days you are meant to go and you can not? What happens with the court case? Have these issues been taken into consideration when making your descision to go ahead with court?

Sorry for all the questions, just would hate for you to lose your home unless this has fully been thought through, by yourself, your solicitor and your treating professionals.

Written by Deleted_User, 13. May 2008 04:22 PM

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