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Written by babz 12. May 2008 07:22 PM

Last night was a bad night. I was desperately tired and just wanted to go to sleep, so got into bed but lay awake for hours tossing and turning. I started thinking about things, and through a chain of thoughts started thinking about the rape. I was running through in my mind what had happened and then suddenly there was a flash of light and I was no longer thinking about it, I was back there. I was walking down the street before it had happened and in my mind I was screaming at myself to run away, to stop, that I was in danger. It wasn't a full flashback, because I was still aware of my physical body. It was almost as if my physical body and my flashback body were two seperate people, but the physical body knew what was going to happen to the flashback body. Physical me was screaming at flashback me, begging her to stop, to run away, but flashback body couldn't hear her and physical body was completely incapable of doing anything other than watch completely helplessly as horrible things happened to flashback body. I was having panic attacks, crying and screaming as though I was in physical pain. It was a horrible semi-flashback. I took extra drugs and eventually cried myself to sleep.

I had an appointment with pdoc this afternoon, I had to get him to fill in a uni medical certificate so I could get an extension on essays. Every time I read one of the, I die a little more inside. There in black and white in front of my face are the dreaded diagnoses, the tick in the box marked 'severe impact' and a circle around 'unable'. My personal shames and private traumas recorded so clinically on a piece of paper for my lecturers and tutors to see freely. I have already got extensions, but still haven't been able to do the essays in time. I have been studying really hard, but none of it seems to sink in and when it does I can't construct a sentence that says what I want. I know that I need further extensions, and I know that I am within my rights to get them, but I can't find the words. I have my email sitting open, but all I do is sit there and stare at the blinking cursor. When I put it down in an email, my pain seems insignificant, almost stupid. I don't know how to ask.

Today the world is in darkness. It hurts to breathe and I wonder why I fight to go on. It all seems too hard, too painful. On the way home I was thinking of horrible things I could do to myself. I won't do them though, because I know that this will pass like it always has. It is the blind faith that the pain will go away that keeps me here. Somewhere deep down, I know that it will pass, but it hurts so badly in the present that it doesn't seem worth it. When I cry it feels as though my chest is being ripped in two, that my heart is breaking. I sound melodramatic I know, but that is how I feel. I want to stop crying, it hurts.

I won't do anything bad to myself, I won't throw away everything I've worked for, I won't.

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Comments from the community:

Babz

I know what you mean by the medical certificates/forms for uni - try getting out of a course without academic penalty and all the forms the psychiatrist has to complete - at least I was able to withdraw from the course.

Sounds like your dream wasn't a pleasant experience - hope you mentioned it to the psychiatrist for their opinion on what is going on/what is causing this flashback.

Glad you are fighting on and not going to give up on the things you have worked hard for. Good luck and be strong.

Go Babz!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 12. May 2008 07:28 PM

Oh sweety... (((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))) I wish I was there to give you a real hug.

Sweety, I feel for you. I may not understand exactly what you are going through but I do care and wish I was there to help you in any way I can.

Nothing I say can fix what has happened or can make you feel a little tiny bit of happiness. But hun, as you already said, this will pass. And when it does, you will feel so happy that you didn't do anything that you would regret.

Do what you can babz. Go to uni when you can. Session is ending soon and you might be under some amount of stress, but remember hun, uni will always be there for you to go back to. I know I should take my own advice but yeah...

Hang in there darlz. This horrible state will pass and you will see some light at the end of it.

Take care.

Will be thinking of you.

Love,
wd

Written by WhiteDove, 12. May 2008 07:29 PM

Hi babz
Sorry I didn't get the chance to chat to you tonight. I wish you all the very, very best. You so deserve happiness.
Peter

Written by surfer, 12. May 2008 09:38 PM

Hunny bun, you are such a brave women. I really admire you strength to fight. Its what helps me to go on. Thanks babe.

((((((((((((((((((((babz))))))))))))))))))))

Love, care and support always
Amanda xxxxxxxxxxxx

Written by Deleted_User, 12. May 2008 11:07 PM

Babz

Things are coming to a head... the flashbacks can be brought on by stress... the move is coming soon... maybe you need some space... from uni, the move, just for a day or two...

You have been handling things very well lately... this crack up has been coming... it is part of the cycle... and you are right ... hold on and it will pass...

I wish I could make the pain less or make it go away completely but only you can do that...

take care babz... go skate on the ice at dawn...

rgds
cate

Written by cateblack, 12. May 2008 11:09 PM