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Written by babz 11. Mar 2008 05:07 PM

I saw that written on the table in the lecture theatre this afternoon. I saw that and my heart just dropped - I'm not sure whether it was a quote from something or something someone actually meant, but it was so beautifully poetic. If someone wrote it and meant it, I empathise with what they mean.

I went downhill over the weekend. I had a very long and testing day on Sunday as I did an advanced driver training course. After a day of being thrown around in a car and driving in ways that were incredibly anxiety provoking not to mention dangerous, I was left very vulnerable. In the evening I was watching So You Think You Can Dance with Mum, then when it finished I got up and came to my desk to do some work. I never wear shoes at home, so I was setting at my desk and my foot felt really wet. I rubbed it cause I had no idea why my foot would be wet, and I looked at my hand to see what it was - my hand was completely covered in blood! I looked at my foot, and the ball of my foot and just completely spontaneously split. The split was long, it was deep and it was bleeding a lot - I had to use steristrips just to keep it together.

It is such a stupid thing, but the sight of the blood set me off. I hadn't had a wound that bad since my cutting/getting stitches spree in December last year. I freaked. Then suddenly all the physical pain that I had been ignoring in my knees and ankles from skating and my head from banging it a lot in the driving course just hit me with the force of a truck.

I was getting really distressed so I hopped in the shower in the hope it would calm me down, but then I couldn't keep repressing the memories of my accident which were brought up by the course. I was in the shower when I started having full on flashbacks.

That was the last straw. I was a wreck, I was in so much pain I couldn't even stand up let alone walk. I was so upset/distressed that I couldn't do anything else. I snapped and did some really stupid stuff.

I'm medically OK, but I'm physically emotionally dead. I don't have the resilience to get through a normal day anymore. I had a trial shift at a cafe this morning, and I practically started crying when I mucked up a coffee order. I got through my first hour of uni OK, struggled through the second hour and by the third hour I was a complete basket case. I sat there in my tutorial like a zombie - I couldn't say anything even if I had wanted to.

My whole body is aching, I was practically in tears in the car on the way home and it takes a lot of physical pain to do that. I can't be bothered doing anything. Like WhiteDove I am struggling to see the point in struggling on and thinking positive and going to uni and getting a job. It's so hard and it hurts so much. I have an appointment with my psychologist tomorrow, hopefully he will help me talk some sense into myself.

I have dance and skating tonight, but I'm too tired, too sore and honestly I just can't muster the energy to get out the door. I hate going from being able to do everything to not being able to do anything so quickly. And why am I a basket case? Because I accidentally split my foot. I feel like a three year old.

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Comments from the community:

Love,

I trully feel for you. I wish things were better for you. mostly, i wish i could help you. remember hun, this stage WILL pass. as you said all we can do it hang on. and you mention doing silly things, i know its hard but try not to hun. cause when you do it, it reinforces bad habits.

things can't get any worse. whenever you feel low, say this to yourself : when you are down, the only way is to go up.

i know how horrible you feel. i feel the same way.

remember kimberly - she had it rough during uni but she managed to get through it. so will you hun. both of us will.

if things get really hard, mabye see your disability officer and maybe she can do something. or maybe go to the learning centre and ask if you can get any help there.

also hun i am not sure if your lecturers, tutors know wabout ur depression. i reckon its best to let them know, so they can understand. you can do this by making an appointmnet with a disablity officer. you need to bring a doctors letter.

i wish i was pysically there to help you.

you please take care.

it will get better. i promise.

Written by WhiteDove, 11. Mar 2008 05:43 PM

Sweetheart you are being to hard on yourself. You aren't acting like a three year old babe, you are just a sensitive soul and cutting your foot has brought up other issues and you know what, that is OK.

Love, care and support always
Amanda xxxx

Written by Deleted_User, 11. Mar 2008 05:44 PM

Babz

Uni is hard enough when you are well so I congratulate you and WD for giving it a go when you have depression because I know how very hard it is when you have depression and a job.

Hun, you did hurt yourself so I don't know why your foot bled - perhaps it is the work from skating and dancing. Don't be hard on yourself as you didn't do it - it happened by itself - remember that - you didn't cut yourself - that is something to be proud of - you didn't cut yourself!!!

I personally don't like the saying that you quoted because it is hurtful and you are feeling that. How about finding something nice and positive and write it down to cheer yourself up.

Glad you got through your work shift. Hope the psychologist helps you - let him help you and don't shut him out please - he is there to help you and you have to let him in to get that help and from this diary, you need his help or someone's help so lets start with the psychologist tomorrow and let him in on your feelings and the saying you read at uni.

Go Babz!!!

Studying1

Written by studying1, 11. Mar 2008 10:57 PM