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Dear Liz

i do hope you don't what I am about to impertanent. It is not meant to be. I say with compasion in my heart for the struggles you are going through. I ca't imagine what you went through yesterday. What I do see is a mother and a wife who has done far more than her faily has expected to do and didn't complain.

Maybe and just maybe it is getting close to a time when you need to look very carefully at the situations where you believe that you are going to be very stressed and make yourself sick with stress and sit down with your husband and children when these situations are going to arise and askthem all for permission to not participate in events where you are obviously distressed about. I am sure you will find that they all probably understand the troubles you have nearly as well as they do. The other thing I think is very important for you to consider is not be so afraid to ask for help.

When I mean help I am meaning when you are out and about and you are on a train and you know you are at the correct stop if the doors on both sides of the train open as they sometimes do as people which is the way out. Ask for directions when you get lost. these are the things I am talking about. Slowly loosing your sight is a totally different state of affars to someone who has never had any sight.

I have faith in you and your abilities as a person and as a mther and wife to cometo terms with the situation you now find yourself in. I apolagise if your reader has difficulty in reading this comment as I am a very poor speller and have very poor grammer when it comes to the written word.

know that You have my love and my support and I will always be here to encourage you.

your eccentric friend

Bassman

Written by Bassman, 23. Mar 2008 05:38 PM

can feel a little twitch happening here.....
gonna try REALLY REALLY hard to contain it okay???

Dont suppose it ever occurred to you in that stubborn arse head of yours... (oh boy the twitch is getting stronger, its a struggle to keep it under control)... that if you hadve communicated to your family how much you were struggling that you mightve actually enjoyed yourself?????

Retreating into yourself isnt going to make things any easier in the long run, but will actually make things harder!

Yeah sure as your vision goes more and more there are going to be things that become increasingly difficult but that doesnt have to mean you cant still enjoy them, you just have to have strategies in place to make the situation as stress free and enjoyable as possible, and unfortunately you CANT do this on your own so your going to have to swallow that damn stubborn pride of yours and actually COMMUNICATE your needs with others!

ooooooooooooh gee its gettin sooooooooooo hard to control this twitch... its become more of a jerk now... my foot is almost spasming... up and down... up and down... up and down...

If steps were in place to ease your anxiety then you would enjoy the events sooooo much more, perhaps a valium or the such to help you get used to the tricky stuff? You'd have to discuss that with your doc...

I daresay you didnt tell your family as you didnt want to spoil the day for them and thats an admirable quality but do you really think they were totally unaware how difficult it was for you? Your hubby speaking to the security dude wasnt because your "trouble" but a practical and realistic thing to do. (guess its kinda why there are exceptions made for guide dogs etc, its just that people cant tell your blind that easily with no dog)

Keep sunnies with you if your gonna be out where there may be the fireworks ok? something u had to learn the hard way unfortunately...

U know, ladies with prams can always get thru if they use a bit of forcefulness, hell, they just barge their way thru.... same coulda been done if hubby had his arm thru yours (also kinda romantic) and maybe even your son on the other side if need be..... tHAT way you sorta form a human battering ram to get your way to the best spots!!! lol

Anyhows gotta go lay down hun, my tums hurtin real bad...
love you lots
mmmwa
xxx

PS think yourself lucky your escaped the foot, was almost a mega arse kicking for you!
YOUR NOT TROUBLE YOUR JUST A STUBBORN ARSED SO AND SO WHO WONT ASK FOR HELP!!!!!

Written by Gyps, 23. Mar 2008 06:54 PM

yes I am stubborn arsed I dont want my world to be dfifferent and it is, as much as i try to keep it the same it changes

my life is worth less less than it has ever been

cant do it
just cant keep trying to accept all this

a kick up the bum wont do it Gyps or Bass, nothing works anymore the way it did and i cant change who i am any more too much

a few more drinks and that will be it brave en ough to do what should have been done 18 months ago but now i know how

this is not your burdon its my solution

enough now just enough
thanks for caring

Written by keller, 23. Mar 2008 07:47 PM

WHAT THE FUCK???

You better not be goin to do what I think your goin to do???????

Written by Gyps, 23. Mar 2008 08:32 PM

Liz,
its NOT a solution and you know that, you have so much life left in you yet, and your family adores you! You have been making such good progress, dont throw it all away now Liz, please, Im begging you, dont give up the fight, oh Liz hun, you DONT have to do this on your own, thats why its been such a struggle, you gotta reach out to your loved ones.
I love you Liz

Written by Gyps, 23. Mar 2008 08:35 PM

Hey Liz
You can be sad - yes. Ashamed? NEVER. You have been an inspiration to me and to others I'm sure. Put your hand out and I will help you through the hard times.
Peter

Written by surfer, 24. Mar 2008 02:09 AM

Keller

You are a stronger woman than I am. You got to the annual royal show with the family and had a fair time. I can't even go because it is too crowded, noisy and great for migraines.

Great achievement and be proud of your achievement.

Go Keller!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 31. Mar 2008 06:56 PM