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Written by itsonlyme 22. May 2008 04:24 AM

Since my last entry my life has turned to compost again.??? chain re-action??...I found out at 7pm tonight that my partner of 7 yrs has been seeing some one else for 2 weeks now because I dont give him what he needs. And he is sleeping soundly?
What I felt can't be worded, as I thought all was good. I became withdrawn and dispondant, like an out of body experience - my limbs became so heavy to the point that I could not lift them, nor my eyes. He wanted me to yell, but I couldn't. I put the girls to bed like a zombie and sat outside for 2 hrs to feel the cold, to feel something, a survival mechanism, that I realised while sitting there, I needed the cold to give me something because normally I am very compassionate and caring emotional person and I felt nothing, absolute numbness. And sitting in the darkness looking at the stars and plants around me, the comment then popped in my head - my daughter said to me before she went to bed " mum your eyes are so green, are you ok, I love you". They say eyes are windows to the soul, my eyes when I cry turn almost fleurecent emerald green they always have. My question is why do men like to take the piss from me, I give my all, I work very hard, I study, I look after my children and love them heaps, I have a nice home, I am ocd, so my house is very clean, I really love to kiss and I love to make love - love to ride motor bikes and go camping..I think I am normal..but I cant seem to have a good relationship..my xx's hang on, but its too little too late, is this normal???

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Hmmm seems Ive caught Alzhiemers from my modem... Its Gypsygirl here... And you are ........... Leah?

Written by Gyps, 22. May 2008 05:33 AM




Hi,

Its obvious that you arent the one with the problem, it's your partner. A lot of men seem to have this problem and can't stay faithful. My heart goes out to you Hun, as I know this feeling well, as both my husbands did this to me too. I would've thought being together for 7yrs was a good relationship. Don't go blaming yourself as obviously he's got issues.
Take care,
Lesley xxx

Written by lesleyk, 22. May 2008 09:07 AM

Yes mem are self centered, selfish pigs sometimes. They suck your life force. I've been there.

And at the moment I no it doesn't really matter that it's him with the problem not you. TRUST ME IT'S NOT YOU GIRL ITS HIM. I still don't understand what can make them do that and I seriously don't believe they know what they want either. Mine told me the grass isn't greener on the other side of the fence. Yeh and I really cared at that point, and now it still doesn't matter.

You are a better person than him. If you think you have enough things in common and he is generally a good bloke and want to patch things up and talk things through (if he is willing) IT WILL MAKE YOU A STRONGER PERSON, believe me.

I feel you numbness and I'm here if you talk things through with a sympathetic ear, take care.

Amanda

Written by amandablue, 22. May 2008 10:13 AM

What a jerk. Why do men have to sabotage good things in their lives, I don't understand them at all? Has he promised to end it with this other girl? you have a lot to sort out with him unfortunately, especially where there are children concerned. It will be a long and arduous road, good luck with your journey.

Your eyes sound like the most beautiful eyes in the world, just love green eyes, sorry that's kind of off the track, but the way you described them was beautiful.

Anyway, good luck with your problem and we're here for you while you try and sort your way through thid muck.

Warm wishes,
Karen xxx

Written by fly, 22. May 2008 11:20 AM

Hi All, Gyps, my name is not Leah, abit confused by your msg, but dont mind me I am not exactly the sharpest tool in the shed at the moment.
I had a chat with him this morning, he said that he has no intention of breaking all contact, but said he doesnt want to live how she lives?? What does that mean?
I did not go to work today, my bosses are going to be annoyed. I want to pack a bag and go and stay in a hotel today. I dont want to look at him, I know what he will say and do...that Im sorry, I love you & suck my oxygen blah blah blah. The kids can stay here, I will just tell them I have gone on a work trip. I am tired. Thanks for your support and words, take care.

Written by itsonlyme, 22. May 2008 02:51 PM

Its

I am sorry this has happened to you. I hope you and your family get through this and this sod is shown the door very quickly. Be strong and if you need to talk, see your psychologist/psychiatrist. No one deserves to be treated that way.

Go Its!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 22. May 2008 10:49 PM

My modem has Alzhiemers-doesnt remember th password so gotta keep resetting it. I think I must also hav Alzhiemers. I remember u but not your real name. My original name on here was gypsygirl-just shortened it.
If u split, stay in th house.
Goodluck
xxx

Written by Gyps, 23. May 2008 01:43 AM