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Written by itsonlyme 12. Dec 2007 12:07 AM

Thank you kindly to all for your comments in my last entry. Since then, I have sought help, and I feel a little better.
The overseas trip was agony, I dosed myself to get their and arrived only to faint on the road and almost get hit by a car.And then did not eat for day's. yep, it was really special.
I Have decided to leave my partner and sell all, divided equally too. I don't want any problems with that crap, even though he does not deserve it.
He has been telling me " I love you lets get counselling together, lets go on a holiday, lets do this, do that blah blah blah. But I believe in karma. My believe is that you can't treat a person like that and get away with it. I am not being a stereo typical partner when I say, he has done some horrible things to me. Just lately he broke all of my perfume, yep about $1500 worth..smashed it all. Oh and my fav posession, that can't be replaced, ever. But in the same breathe he is telling me that he loves me, and lawyers don't need to be involved...difficult...I honestly can't be bothered with it all. Its not me. I do love him but its time to move on.
Another but..I feel like my eyes have opened. I may not have money to burn anymore but I feel free and happier inside myself. I am abit scared though, not for myself, only for my girls.
Work is good, and supportive.
Another but... despite my positve efforts I did have another grand episode with my (perfect) sister last week. I made a comment that I have thoughts about killing myself, and she took that and used it. Made me feel like a crazy person, a looser, a wierdo. In front of the family. But you know what I did, I told her in front of everyone not to make me the route of her backward asshole narrow minded conversation and then too grow up..and that lifes not always perfect for every one..then I walked away. And that was it. She didn't say another word about it. But..yes another fab but.. I dont understand her train of thought..she has never worked a day in her life.
Somebody that I respect highly and knows of my thoughts told me " you are not fighting for yourself, you are fighting for your girls now. .they are you".
They are my sunshine, guardians, comfort and most of all my loves.
Tomorrow might bring something different, but ;
Merry Xmas Deppies xox
Thanks for listening. PS..If you have any suggestions that can help me with separating please let me know, because I am on my own.

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Comments from the community:

Its

Sorry about your trip - fainting in front of a car wasn't good.

As for separation, the solicitors may get involved due to the nature of the issue - separation/selling assets. Personally if you have the money engage one so they are doing the best for you and your kids. If you are sure it is over then make the move asap. If you think there could be a chance send him to anger management sessions - I had to send my partner on them and he is a lot better and then seek some couples counselling. But as I have pointed out already if it is over you need to move soon and not stay around where he could hurt you/harm you or try and change your mind.

Go Its!!!

Studying1

Written by studying1, 12. Dec 2007 12:21 AM

Hi Studying1,
Thanks for your input, it is very helpful. It is over for me. I am so tired of trying to make life easy for him. I have moved into another room. One day I keep hope that
I will find some one who gives as much as I do.
A gypsy lady told me years ago..he is fire and you are water..together you create steam. I do not want to settle for someone that is just company, even though the my love is there. Hard times ahead...I know..but I cannot cry anymore. I just can't cry anymore.

Written by itsonlyme, 12. Dec 2007 01:51 AM

Hey - you sound a lot better. It sounds like you've still got hurdles to overcome - but your whole outlook sounds better and stronger - you've got more resolve and fight in you now.

Congrats

Love Kimberly
xoxo

Written by Wolveress, 12. Dec 2007 05:20 AM

Personally, I would find living in the same house, but seperated, to be a completely intolerable situation.
Has he not replaced the perfume? Cause that would be the first thing I would need before anything else...Wouldn't take the incident away but would at least be an act of good faith.
All the best.

Written by Deleted_User, 12. Dec 2007 08:27 AM

Hi itsonlyme ,

I don't know if I could be any help , but I'm 21 mths separated and only just divorced .
Its your call, bt my msn is cazbry@bigpond.com
You're welcome to add me and chat if you like .
Starting again is not easy at first , but once all debts are cleared and you have just yourself and your girls , things will slowly fall into place .

Good on you for sticking it up your sister ,you have enough on your mind and don't need any aggravation , you may be more comfortable with your decision than you think.

Happy to chat if you like,

Sleep with angels

Written by Bryan, 12. Dec 2007 06:18 PM