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Jobless, cold shoulder and now... pregnant

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Written by itsonlyme 25. Mar 2007 04:50 PM

I havent made an entry for months.
I eventually quit my high stress position, about a month ago.
I just found out that I am pregnant, considering the doctors told me that I could not get pregnant. I am feeling lonely at the moment. my partner is stressing about supporting all, he hasn't said it yet, but I get the strong feeling that he does not want this baby, he is cold when I mention it.
Lastnight we had an arguement and I slept in another room. He called me selfish and we are not on the same page and that he is this close....?? What does this mean..that he will leave me with a family to look after, a mortgage to pay, bills, and pregnant so I can't work? He told me that he needs reassurance and appreciation, - I am pregnant, jobless and feeling alone and like a useless sponge even though I have paid for this house up until I resigned!!!!!!! AAAAAAHHHHH - I am getting hormonal rage!!! My family on the other hand are really happy for us, they think all is rosy. I can't talk to them about this. I am depressed I haven't been eating or drinking, I don't know what to do, I feel like he is trying to maipulate me into having an abortion, making me feel bad. I really don't know what to do. I dont know how to cope with all this. I am scared, confused and very stressed.

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Comments from the community:

Hi,

To be honest I wish I could help you so much honey with everything. I am going to congratulate you on your pregnancy because I think it's wonderful and I am also going to tell you if you feel it's right in your heart of hearts to have this baby then do it. DON'T EVER get pressured into doing anything you don't want to do.

As for you partner I don't he should be calling you selfish because I believe you are anything but. Money wise, I honestly know how hard it is to live of a single income and if you do decide to have this baby, it is going to be even harder. My suggestion is if you can do it, speak to your work and ask them if they can work something out for you, finding you a position that's not going to be stressful for you or your baby. I'm sure they wouldn't want to lose someone wonderful as you. Or even get something part time. It's up to you.

But for now, promise me you're going to take care of yourself and start eating. It's not good for you or your baby.

I wish you the absolute best sweetheart.

Love,

Christine

Written by Christine24, 25. Mar 2007 05:11 PM

Itsonlyme

I am sorry you find yourself in this pickle. You need to have a decent chat with your partner to sort out where you stand - together or sorry to say it but separate. You need to do this as there is a baby to consider. You also need to make sure any medications you are on are okay for the baby.

I feel so sorry for you but you are strong and confident enough to sort out what you want and need.

Studying1

Written by studying1, 25. Mar 2007 07:00 PM

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