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Written by Christine24 30. Jan 2008 01:01 PM

Today I feel ok. I've been thinking of my family a lot these past few days, just thinking of how fake they can act and how much they hurt me. I keep getting phone calls from a private number, I tend to ignore them but Chris answers and they hang up. I'm assuming it's my parents checking up on me because they are the only ones who I know that have a private number.

It's my sister's birthday soon and I don't know whether to do the right thing and call her and wish her happy birthday knowing that she's always rude to me or do what her and my family do and not call. I mean no one ever calls me for my birthday or Christmas so why should I call her for her birthday? Or should I do the right thing and call her knowing that she isn't going to care?

This has affected me more than anything, not talking to my family, not knowing if they're ok is breaking my heart but I have tried all that I can do and it's their stubborn ways and pride that get in the way of healing our relationship.

My sister has never had time for me, she's never been there for me in anyway, nor have I felt any love from her. I remember growing up she'd always had time for others but never me. She always used to do things with friends or cousins but never me. Everyday I used to call her and she never had time to talk but when she spoke to anyone else, she'd be on the phone for hours on end.

I remember when my family tried to break Chris and I up and she took me on a "holiday" to QLD. The entire time I was lectured. Her and my mum did everything to tell me Chris was nothing more than a loser and a nobody. When I finally said that's it I didn't want to be with hom just to get them off my back, they were acted nice and loving which I immediately knew was fake because they thought they won.

My mother sent me a text message saying that I should go ahead and kill myself as no one loves me or cares about me. Nice to know my mum feels that way about me.

I just had to get this out.

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Comments from the community:

Hey Christine24, it sounds like you have a really difficult time with your family, I have issues with mine too, not to the same extreme as yours though by the sounds. I don't know if this will help or not, but when I first came back out of hospital after suffering a severe episode of depression, the psychologist that I had been working with, came up with some strategies for me, to set boundaries with my family. One of the suggestions was to contact them via email, I was thinking about your sisters birthday, if it is too difficult to talk to her over the phone, because she may abuse her, then don't give her the option, you are still wishing her a happy birthday but on your own terms, the other thing you could do is send her a card, again you get the chance to say happy birthday, without getting hurt yourself. All the best Christine24 From Riles

Written by riles, 30. Jan 2008 01:45 PM

Hello christine24, it must be a very difficult and awkward
time for you atm. I empathize with you. You have to do what's right for you because it's your life, you have to come first and look after yourself.I wish i could say more to make you feel better but we are all here for support and you have it from all of us deppies. Good luck regards
bun :)

Written by bun, 30. Jan 2008 02:42 PM

Chrissy

OMG. I cannot believe your family have treated you this way. I mean I thought Queen Bee was bad - fortunately she has never told me to kill myself - that is very mean, vendictive and nasty.

I didn't have a relationship with my sister until she came to Toowoomba and we started developing a relationship. Perhaps you could do that with your sister - start small - general chat with her and then see where it goes from there - I hope it goes to a great relationship like we are developing.

Get an answering machine and screen your calls. It will force the private number to leave a message.

Chrissy, so sorry you are going through this but you will get through it fine as you are strong and determined - you proved that when you went to Qld with your sister and mother and decided on Chris.

Go Chrissy!!!

Studying1

Written by studying1, 30. Jan 2008 05:52 PM

Hi Christine24,

I feel the same. My parents are very dictatorship and they say they love me...but as soon as things don't go their way...i get ultimatums...it's not fair...I feel so alone. I have my 2 cats i guess...they are my life atm. I pray for you and hope things improve for both of us. Follow your heart and mind...you will know what is right for YOU.

(((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))
From Justify

Written by justify2c, 2. Feb 2008 05:27 PM