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Dear Jo,
Its worth a try and if you can't manage when you get there - thats ok.
Big Hugs
Avril

Written by psyche, 10. Jul 2007 10:32 PM

Jo

If you are capable of getting back to uni, then I am very proud of you but don't overdo it. You know how hard uni can be for well people but when you are unwell it can be harder.

Go Jo!!!

Studying1

Written by studying1, 10. Jul 2007 11:50 PM

Dear Jo

Thanks for your comment on my diary. That was a lovely suprise to hear from you!

OK - I'm going to help you a bit here, as you know I've just been through the same stuff.

Firstly - let's have a look at your thinking and your expectations. In a recent diary you wrote about getting back to your 'high distinctions' .......

You know that you need to finish your degree. You know that most students do not get HDs, yet they are good enough. Most students get passes and the odd credit. A few of the more ambitious or more insecure!! students get HDs - and these students are the one's who normally talk about their marks....which is why it may seem as though more people get HDs then really do.

JoJo - look at the big picture - it's about getting through - putting your degree behind you. I started my first undergrad degree at 17....numerous attempts later and 3 different types of degrees later - I've finished it nearly 17 years later!!! Meanwhile, most of those people who focused on getting passes, who accepted the odd failed unit and the odd repeated unit - well they finished their degree donkeys years ago and cruised on into their working life!!!

You can do one unit this coming semester. The challenge for you is to be able to resist striving for the HD. That's not necessaraly going to be balanced. If you're doing your uni face to face (ie not correspondance) I want you to join at least one student group - whether it be sporting/film/reading etc.

Use this coming semester as an opportunity to do one unit, to get back there into the world in a more holistic way - ie. to eat healthily, to do a little excercise, to interact with other students - ie to grow in a holistic way - Recovery from depression is about growing.

Before I started my last semester I spoke to a girlfriend of mine - and said I was 'hoping' to finish my degree in June - and I 'wasn't sure' that I would be able to, and 'hopefully' things would go ok. She pulled me aside and said - Kimberly, YOU ARE GOING TO FINISH YOUR DEGREE IN JUNE - I AM NOT GOING TO ALLOW YOU NOT TO FINISH IT.

JoJo - I'm saying the same to you. YOU ARE GOING TO MANAGE THIS ONE UNIT THIS SEMESTER. WE ARE NOT GOING TO LET YOU NOT MANAGE IT. WE AT DEPNET ARE GOING TO MAKE SURE YOU COMPLETE IT. You are also going to keep working on getting out and about and doing things.

Doubt is a waste of energy.

If you can get hold of Dorothy Rowe's book titled 'Beyond Fear' - please get it. I think it will help you.

Lots of love

Kimberly
xoxo

Written by Wolveress, 11. Jul 2007 12:17 AM