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Written by bluewave 17. Apr 2008 12:59 PM

I have thought long and hard about this...

She is currently still being raped when she visits her parents home, even though she is an adult now. I had to talk her out of suicide last week. She painfully shy and extremely vunerable right now.

I would never call the police with out her consent, but believe she may need me to do it for her. I have decided that I am strong enough to be her voice and will speak to the police, but only if she consents.

Thank you for your comments, I realize it would be wrong to take rash action behind her back. However I won't let up because though I have not been raped myself I personally experienced some child abuse and it tore me apart. my biggest regret was not telling anyone.

I can not be the quiet friend who wished she said something but have her already suicide. Everyday I message her to just to reassure myself she is alive. She wasn't that bad but it's come to a crisis point and the worse thing is she won't go to hospital or listen to her psych.

I don't want the police to arrive to her house or anything but I will give an anomynous call just to ask advice. Then if she wishes me too I will be by her side if she wants to make a statement.

Seriously thank you all so so very much for your advice, you don't understand how much it has helped me to come to a more wiser decision.

I will keep you all updated.

bluewave
xxoo

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Comments from the community:

Hey Blue,

It is a wonderful thing you are doing for your friend, you are indeed a "true friend" and there are not many people like you out there trust me.

I too was raped continuously at home, but at a much younger age then your friend, and not by my parents. I was too frightened to tell anyone until only 3 years ago, and it has haunted me. I wish i had someone who could have spoken up for me at the time, but i was threatened with death if i told anyone. Now i wish it had happened for what it has put me through for the past 30 odd years.

Keep right along side your friend blue, and continue the good work, she will thank you for it when she is feeling strong enough.

Take care

Luv Nouse

Written by Nouse, 17. Apr 2008 02:36 PM

You are remarkable!
A true friend.
With wisdom to watch over.
You will make the right decision.

For your friend I wish her strength and help, it is a long road back to the world after these sort of abuses but you beside her she will have the best opportunity.

I am so so very glad that you wrote your original post and were intellegent enough to deal with all sides of the issue.

You are extrodinary!

Liz
XXX

Written by keller, 17. Apr 2008 07:07 PM

The first thing is for her not to go any where near her Parent's house. Be careful yourself bluewave, I'm sorry but this situation doesn't add up, it is entirely possible your friend is delusional. Certainly she needs urgent Psychiatric assistance, as even going anywhere near that house shows really poor judgement. I hope she will be ok.

Written by Deleted_User, 17. Apr 2008 07:59 PM

Blue...have you considered contacting the Rape Crisis Centre in your state for advice or support for your friend?

Written by g463, 17. Apr 2008 08:17 PM

Blue

That is the best decision. You need to advise her not to see her parents and contact them via the phone if it is still happening to her. No one deserves such treatement and you waiting for her consent is the best/wisest thing to do.

Go Blue!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 17. Apr 2008 08:37 PM

yes there is certainly more going on than she's saying?/or your writing?... why does she keep going to visit her parents if she just gets raped there?

I understand you cant give all of the details here but there is a reason your friend keeps visiting her parents if she knows she will be raped.....

Whether its that she's delusional... believes it'll no longer happen... or is continuing to go there in order to protect??? a younger sibling perhaps????? something is VERY amiss.....

Be there for your friend and try to guide her to the safest outcome for her... but please remember your own mental health at the same time...

Your an amazing gal blue
mmmwa
xxx

Written by Gyps, 17. Apr 2008 10:31 PM

Delusional..as in it ever happened at all...or, yes it happens, and so delusional that it won't...highly unlikely scenario I'm afraid. Either way big Psychiatric issue, not one a friend can deal with that's for sure. You have indicated her Psych is aware of her circumstances, if she were not delusional the man would be in jail. Please look after yourself bluewave.
I think the Rape Crisis suggestion is a bloody good one. Spot on actually. Gives your friend the support she seems to require and relieves the responsibility you are feeling, there is nothing else you can possibly do here..this situation is not something a lay person can handle on any level, and you need yourself not to be in any more poor situations.....Deriding a person for their delusions, no good...supporting them as a person, fine..supporting their delusions..not fine.
It's so hard to discriminate when we suffer depresssion ourselves...we just want to be kind, and accept other's mistakes and we take on too much and destroy any chance we have of being ok.....

Written by Deleted_User, 18. Apr 2008 12:06 AM

Sorry for nagging...I am equally not suggesting you confront your friend with the delusional theory..as a delusion is just that...a falsely held belief..in other words, her truth, her belief..so to question would be very detrimental and fruitless. What a situation! Better you than me babe. Good Luck.

Written by Deleted_User, 18. Apr 2008 12:29 AM

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