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Written by bluewave 16. Apr 2008 05:02 PM

Thank you all for your comments especially one in particular. I am going to ring the police or help line for further advice for my friend who has been raped by her dad.

I feel guilty if I let her secret out or cause trouble but I look in her eyes and she is honestly, I swear, the sadness eyes I have ever seen in a human being ever!

This man needs to be stop, when I go over her house and look at him it gives me shivers up my spine. I will call the police and ask for advice. I have encouraged her to tell her mum but even though she has not told her mum we both know she already knows. She even recently casually said that sexual abuse was ok!!!

God both her parents are screwed up. Yes I think I need to at least start the ball rolling for justice. I can't bare to look into her empty eyes again.

by the way, personally I am feeling great. Few days ago I wanted to self harm but didn't thus maintaining my NON self harm for about 4 months :)

bluewave
xxoo

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I can think of very little to say, as I humbled by your efforts, other than

T H A N K Y O U

Go gently bluewave, people need to know there are people in the world just like you, compassionate and honest and strong. Keep safe.

Liz
XXX

Written by keller, 16. Apr 2008 06:00 PM

I strongly disagree. You will be starting a very harrowing process for your friend, she is 23 and therefore no longer at risk is the issue. Better to attend Counselling with her..or encourage her to attend..they will discuss the option of Police Intervention and provide appropriate support for that process if that is what she chooses to do...it's her choice. Also she sounds like she really needs a friend she can trust, and she absolutely will not be your friend if you do this.

Written by Deleted_User, 16. Apr 2008 06:10 PM

Please note my own interest in this matter comes from my personal pertspective and of what I know about the law.

Cropt makes many valid points and is a well informed person with experience and credibility. We do however differ in our views and I am grateful that we all dont think alike!

With your wise mind you can balance the emotional and practical situation of either action.

I hope you are able to come to the best decision for your friend and yourself.

Be strong in your own resolve

Liz

Written by keller, 16. Apr 2008 06:32 PM

If it has been going on for years and the mother is aware but hasnt put a stop to it, then have you ever considered that the reason the friend hasnt gone to the police is because she fears no-one will believe her?????

Why didnt you ever tell anyone of your rape Keller?

Bluewave, ultimately you will do what your heart tells you is in the best interests of your friend. If you go to the police she may feel betrayed, but she will also be thankful the rape has stopped.

If it all becomes too much for your friend to endure any longer and she commits suicide, how will you feel?

Or even worse, if things get out of hand and her father kills her, how will you feel?

You are in an awful situation here and I dont envy you, but it pales into insignificance compared to what your friend has to endure every living breathing moment of her life...

Written by Gyps, 16. Apr 2008 07:20 PM

Blue

Cropt is right. She is adult enough to contact the police if she needs to. Be there for her if she does that. Go to counselling with her because she is going to need help and support to get through that. Your kind intentions could backfire very badly on you and your friend so don't call the police unless your friend asks you for help/to do it.

Go Blue!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 16. Apr 2008 08:41 PM

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