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Written by bluewave 8. Jun 2008 04:03 AM

Hi all! :)

Absolutely great news to tell you in continuation of 'police' entries.

My girlfriend told her mum with her psych there about the abuse from her dad. I can't believe it her mum actually came to the plate this time, she confronted her husband and threw him out the house that very day. She believe my friend and was extremely supportive during the meeting. I was so worried about what could happen and knew if her mum stayed in denial my friend would just crumble...

But everything happen to plan. She is finally safe! When I spoke to her on the phone today she was so different. She was actually talking to me as oppose to her very quite voice giving me one answer responses. It's like she is alive again, I can not believe how brave she has been, it's been such a long time since the abuse has been going on and finally I see her as a stronger woman who is actually starting to love herself. I am so proud of her and she inspires me.

As for me I have been having negative thoughts still about my ex boss/ex bf but I am not letting my past damage me. When he enters my mind I run to my piano, sing my heart out and play till my wrists are tired. I know I deserve a great man in my life.

I don't want to hassel him anymore, I won't worrying about what he did to me because now I am stronger and have learned a lot about toxic people.

I am prepared to just let him and that aspect of my life ho. I am letting go of the pain now. It's time to start living in the now and work on myself.

I had a great day today. I cleaned the house for mum so when she woke up she didn't have to anything, I did the bathroom, kitchen, folded the washed clothes and then I cooked dinner :)

I cooked roasted broccoli, cauliflower and sweet potatoe with roasted chicken woth rosemary. Then I straighten my mum's hair so she looked beautiful. I also been doing lots of craft so keep me busy.

I's funny I still have intense, scary painful feelings that intrude me out of the blue, but the fact is I have learned how to cope with these feelings. I have not yet let it bring me down to suicidal stage, I feel down but I just won't let the feelings get worse because I chose to be happy, I chose to change the way I think. I am challenging my negative thoughts.

I have not been self harming recently and though it's the easy option for relief I have been forcing myself to draw, play piano, go for a ciggarette *giggles* well anything that is not as damaging as self harm because I no longer want the easy way out. I don't want anymore scars and I want my life back.

I am going to get my life back, I promise you all, I am seeing life in a very different perspective. If my friend can overcome what she has gone through for all her life then it is possible for me and all of you to find happiness and peace to in ourselves.

Thank you all for your support, Im not giving up on life yet.

Bluewave
xxoo :):):)

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Comments from the community:

Bluewave

Wow you have done so well... and it is so good to hear about your friend...

keep thinking positive...

take care

rgds
cate

Written by cateblack, 8. Jun 2008 04:24 AM

Blue

That is the best diary I have read in ages.

I am so glad it worked out for your friend and her mum believed her and acted accordingly.

As for you, your idea of music is a great one.

Go Blue!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 8. Jun 2008 05:39 AM

Hi bluewave,

Such a positive diary entry, well done you. That's great news about your friend, I'm so glad and relievevd her Mum did the right thing by her. It's amazing the difference having your Mum's support in something as ugly and complicated as sexual abuse can be.

Glad to hear you've not been self harming and using different ways of coping with down feelings. That's fantastic.

Hope your wave of happiness continues for you.

Luv Karen

Written by fly, 8. Jun 2008 05:00 PM

Hi Blue,

you have done so much for your frined, please continue to be there and help, this is probably a bit og ahoneymoon time, in that she is relieved all is out in the open. It will still be hard, stand vby your mate. You deserve a medal!

Sounds like you are progressing well too blue, I ma glad you are focused on getting your life back, it is a worthwhile thing to do. Keep chipping away.

With my very best wishes


liz

Written by keller, 8. Jun 2008 07:21 PM