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Written by bluewave 5. Jun 2008 03:10 PM

Hi all,

I am currently at work and can not concerntrate, I am thinking about my ex boss/boyfried. I am hurting. My mind is wondering if he is still cheating on his wife. If he cheated o me.

I know I shouldn't give a damn anymore but his abuse still haunts me and I want to feel worthy, I want to get some answers I am still so angry and confused. I want to know if he still sleep with prostitutes I want his wife to find out.

I hate myself for having the affair with him. I hate myself for accepting the abuse that still haunts my mind. hate myself for not voicing the lack of work ethics at that company I wish I said something. As a Boss and boyfrind he was verbally abusive and equally damaging.

I want to move on but there are days like today he is in my mind and my chest feels tight, I am running out for a smoke and my teeth clench. I am anxious and so tired.

I want to cry but I can not I want answers from him. I want one truthful answer. I promise not to contact him. I don't want to see him but I feel I have no closure on the matter. I feel my wounds still open and they can be healed.

...on a completely different subject I have some great news. If you guys remember I had a friend whos dad is raping her. She went to hospital a few weeks ago where she got a lot of support. I ask her a lot of confronting questions and she finally opened up more to me. She is finally accepting that it is not her fault and this saturday she is going to tell her mother about the abuse with her psychiatrist.

I am soooo happy, finally she does not have to hide, finally he will be exposed for the monster he is. Last week she pushed he closet against her bedroom door and he could not rape her that night, when she got out her room the next morning he was waiting for her outside her bedroom where he grabbed her hand and smashed her head against the wall.

This is the first time she did not freeze and actually blocked her door so he could not come in during the night, I think he was so angry because he realizes he is losing control.

I hope everything goes well and her bitch of a mother doesn't ignore her cry for help again and believe the shocking truth.

oh guys I am so emotional right now and at work so keeping a straight face, dear lord this is hard.

Still thinking about Boss/Ex...I am breaking

Bluewave

xxoo

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Comments from the community:

Bluewave

you are right there will be days where the thoughts of the abuse by your boss will consume you... you need to fight against the thoughts...

Good news about your friend... she is taking back control... and it is good you are supporting her...

keep my fingers crossed she keeps getting stronger...

take care

you have done well..

rgds
cate

Written by cateblack, 5. Jun 2008 04:02 PM

Hi Blue,

some days are diamonds some days are stone! (and I hate country music)

But, having said that please dont be too hard on yourself. You have been to hell and back yourself, and you have watched your friend come to terms with the enormity of her situation.

I firmly believe that you have been put here to do good by your frieind and by yourself. You are one true gutsy person and dont let these thoughts and feelings over whelm you and detract from what you are achieving.

Heres cheers to you, give yourself a little pampering if ti helps to remind you of how special you are.

All my very best




Liz
XXX

Written by keller, 5. Jun 2008 07:24 PM

Blue

You will have good days and bad days about your boss/ex and today is a bad day. Remember think about things but don't act on your thoughts as it could be bad.

As for your friend - yipee - she has seen the light and is getting help and support she needs. Saturday will be a big day for her - telling mum so be there to support her when she has told her her news.

Go Blue!!!

Mrs Studying1

Written by studying1, 5. Jun 2008 07:41 PM