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Written by justify2c 27. Jan 2008 09:35 PM

I feel abandoned by my family, my parents just set rules about my future otherwise they don't want to know me. My sister is not getting on with our parents and she is no longer in contact with me.
But I still have my beautiful two cats. I love them so much and they are my life.
I'm currently single and have longings to become a father. I believe in God and I am strong spirituality and a Christian...but I still feel lonely...Why? I've been on Efexor XR 150mg for 2 years. I went to see my psychologist and GP last week...they said that I'm "slowly" improving..but some days just feels like I'm going backwards.
Is depression always going to be part of my life? I think it is as it always comes back and bites me just when I'm feeling a little bit better.
Is this normal life for me? When I look at other people they seem to be on a "natural" high. Why do I have to push myself all them time. There is a fighting spirit within me but how long can it last...can't I just be normal and happy without going up and down like a yo-yo. Why? Maybe I should just stop asking myself all these question.
Really need your help fellow depnet members. Appreciate any support you can provide.

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Comments from the community:

Justify

We deppies all go through what you are going through in regards to is this going to be with me for life, will I have to take meds for life. Speak to your gp about this. They should have an idea given you have been on a medication for 2 years.

Go with the good days and go with the bad days and hopefully it will end up being more good days than bad days.

Go Justify!!!

Studying1

Written by studying1, 27. Jan 2008 11:08 PM

Justify
I can truly relate to how you feel... and I have a cat that makes me feel good... and another stray cat that just wants to be loved... so they are worth fighting for... you wonder about being a father... I never became a mother... and there is part of me that wonders if I had would I be ill now. I have been on my meds since 1996 and there seems no likelihood of me coming off them ... but you have your psychologist and GP saying there has been some improvement ... that is something to hold onto... it is one step forward three steps backward with this illness and every day is a struggle but you are doing well you are looking to the future... remember when there was a time you couldn't see to the end of the day... take courage from the fact you are not alone and you have a network of friends and family that support you... you will hopefully find some moments of joy in your life that will carry you through

rgds
cate

Written by cateblack, 27. Jan 2008 11:20 PM

I'm sorry to hear that you feel lonely as a result of your family not being in contact with you, I personally wouldn't know what I'd do without my family so it must be difficult for you. It must be nice to at least have your cats to keep you company.

I think its great that you still have hope and a fighting spirit in ilfe, maintain that and listen to what your psych says, in terms of taking medications and suggestions for things to improve life etc, and you should be able to maintain that hope.

I believe everyone has problems in life, even healthy people. So there will always be ups and downs, its part of life. However, I think some people are able to conceal their problems better than others, especially actors...

Written by a-Leng, 28. Jan 2008 07:19 AM

Hey Justify
I too can really relate to your post. I have a similar relationship with my family as well. It sounds like you have some strong passions in your life, religion and your pet cats. I hope that you can gain some strength from your beliefs and the company of you cats. I want you to know that my thoughts are with you as I understand how difficult things are for you at the moment. Take care of yourself and try and give youself some of the things that you are needing. Do some things that you know you will enjoy, they may lift your spirits. All the best Justify, From Riles

Written by riles, 28. Jan 2008 03:32 PM

Hello justify,
I am new to depnet, also a christian but understand some of the feelings you are having. I am OCD and sometimes agrophobic, I have a little girl who has just turned one. I think you like me feel being a christian should make us much stronger than other people, but it doesn't, we are normal just like others. My 2 cats are very special to me and always give me unconditional love. I hope you feel stronger soon. Hope my answer helps you cope a little better.

Written by Deleted_User, 28. Jan 2008 08:29 PM