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A page in the diary "Keeping it all together"
Written by Tracy 22. Aug 2005 12:57 AM

Well The weekend is over my M has gone to bed the girls are in bed and all is quiet. Once again a fairly busy weekend , Sorting out a costume for my daughter for book week. Have to get up early and put ringlets in her hair before she catches the bus, bummer hate getting up in the mornings as it is with ot adding an hour on to it. Bought myself an office chair for this computor because my back has been playing up a bit so helpfully that will help. Went out las night with friends for dinner, I had to drive typical and of course it took me two hours to get get my husband to want to leave. We dont go out very often and when we do I seem to always drive, well if M drives then we have to go home as soon as we have eaten he just cant cope with socialising and not been able to have a few beers. I is getting that way I prefer to stay home , at least then I can have a few drinks on a Sat night and talk with my husband. Its about the only time we talk is when he have a few drinks and I have a few drinks ( mind you I only have two cans I cant cope with feeling tiddly anymore I think it having children I dont like feeling out of control), seem to be able to wind down. Today wasnt very productive, M was tired and a bit hungover, I was also a bit tired - getting home at two am in the morning with a very chirpy husband who reaked of alcohol and then was feeling a bit amorous, of course I was tired and had enough of listening to the boys and their drunken dribble and just wanted to go to sleep. Havent felt at all like sex since I have been on the meds and seem to be making every excuse I can to avoid the whole thing. I know this isnt healthy to our relationship , however the few times I have attempted I just dont seem to feel anything. I guess thats what they call the side effect sexual disfunction. Although I wonder if it is just me or are others having this problem too. I keep telling myself that maybe a little bit of romance, nice music, candles, etc may create the mood. However I just cant be bothered in trying to create the moodand M cerainly cant be bothered, and even though I have sugggested to my husband many times that I am sick of being groped and that he has become lazy in that department, that it is getting to the point that it just makes me cross and annoyed and I feel like saying F--- Off to him (occasionally I do but not in such volgur language), when ever he gropes me, and then he laughs at my annoyance wich makes me even worse. Why cant he just get it that I just cant turn it on when I get into bed. I need niceness, and him to express himself romantically from the start of the day. I love flowers a bunch every now and then would be lovely, M says it just a waste of money and a crock of sh--. He really at times has no idea when it comes to want women want, need and like. And mind you doesnt want to know either, he would rather go without then to put a bit of effort into it. Gosh Here I go again paying out on him. Although we arent fighting we really are good mates, however sometimes that is the trouble I have become his mate and forget that I am still a women that really does occasionally love all that mushy stuff. And I do tell him but he just doesnt listen.
Tomorrow is Monday and I really hate Mondays with evengance. The week seems so long and the housework never ending. But all in all I am not down but not up either, kinda just feel I suppose the word is misunderstood, and even though I had M to myself all weekend we really didnt communicate about anything, We went for a drive today to get wood, but we were both tired so no talking at all today other then mere chit chat.
Anyway I guess things are alright otherwise, I am not teary, not angry, just plogging along and kinda just shrugging my shoulders at everything. Kinda in the Whatever mood.
So I hope tomorrow I am more motivated and more enthusiastic about things
Sorry if I have bored you all with my dribble, but as you all know for me if I get what is in my head out in writing then It seems to help me sleep, I dont seem to do as much thinking about stuff. So it does help me although it must bore everone else. Sorry all.
I hope everyone is OK and had a good weekend
Tracy

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Comments from the community:

Hi Tracy!

It is a bummer to get up in the mornings I find. I am sorry you have to Tomorrow when you also hate it.

Good luck with your new office chair! I too have a back that plays up all the time.

I am sorry your husband won't listen to you. I know how annoying that can be. Sometimes I even do it myself. And from someone who has done it, it takes nothing short of a good yelling to make me pay attention.

By the way, it is not a bore to read your entries. I like reading them! And if it makes you feel better then that is really great!

Any way, I wish you all the best Tomorrow with everything you do!

Cheers,
Michael

Written by Anonymous, 22. Aug 2005 01:12 AM

Hi trac
I think it is good to read your so called dribble,because i dont think it is i feel exactly the same way,only i cant be bothered with the sex at all but mine has this way of making me feel that its ok but he is really saying its pissin him off i just wish they could understand the last thing you want is to be gropped i cant stand it at all.
Its not i dont love him i do but it does not mean everytime you get into bed that they can just start playing with you that gives me the shits more than anything ,one of my friends said to me once if you dont give it to him when he wants he will look elsewhere well as far as i am concerned if he ever did that then he does not understand me at all and i would tell him to keep going and to not come back.
I know for a fact he never would but sometimes i wish he would so he would leave me alone i know that sounds awful but i am in no mood to put up with any shit at the moment i am just in the state of mind that i dont care if i woke up in the morning,anyway sorry i went on about me i am V stuffed and i have been in bed all day,hope you have a good day tommorow being that it is monday and all anyway take care i am not going to say keep trying as i now that when we are in these kind of moods you cant be botherd doing or even hearing that so will check in on you tuesday good luck with your daughters costume and hair love loll xx
ps mine are in bed as well thank god ,i am going as well as it is back to driving an hour to school in the morning for my eldest son and i have to hang around all bloody day it pisses me of as i never get the house work or shopin done and me hubby with be away again all week and i get so damm tired i cant go to bed during the week until my son goes to sleep and that can be midnight i have not had a chance to catch up at all over the weekend so its twwice as much now see now i am the dribbler,sorry.yeah and wingerxx

Written by loll13888, 22. Aug 2005 01:24 AM

Hi Trace,
Firstly, you do not dribble and you're not boring either. If writing all this stuff down helps you get it out of your head, then go for it. I do that sometimes too, but on paper usually. :)
I don't have a hubby or boyfriend to annoy me about having sex but I'd probably feel the same as you if I did. I know when I was with my last steady boyfriend (that was a long time ago!), sometimes he would want sex and start groping me and I wasn't in the mood. Sometimes I'd just do it to keep him happy or get him off my case, but most of the time I'd just tell him to p... off. I know he used to get frustrated with me but I couldn't help it!
He just didn't understand.
Glad you went out last night even tho you paid for it today. Hope tomorrow is not too painful for you and you manage to find a few smiles during the day. :)
Take care of yourself.
Luv, hugs & smiles
Gidge
xoxox

Written by Gidge, 22. Aug 2005 01:55 AM

Hi Michael, Gidge and Loll
Thanks for your comments
And Gidge about you wrote an entry so we can actually write to you.
Escuse my typing errors, grammar etc, but I am rather bleary eyed tonight and probably really should be in bed.
Catch yuo all soon and Gidge tomorrow I will smile at all that housework and curling my daughters hair just for you!
Thanks heaps and make sure you all take good care of yourselves because I say you are all very special OK.
Tracy

Written by Tracy, 22. Aug 2005 02:01 AM

Hi Tracy!

Just thought I would let you know that I too have no feelings for sex since being on my meds. Not that they were really ever there before since I have always been single but there is absolutely nothing now.

Good luck with Tomorrow and the rest of the week!

Cheers,
Michael

Written by Anonymous, 22. Aug 2005 02:04 AM

Hey Gidge
I was just going into your member thing and discovered that we are the same age, born in the same year and a the same month, except I am a week or so older. Are you a Taurus too??
Catch you soon

Written by Tracy, 22. Aug 2005 02:07 AM

Hi Trace,
I just finished writing my latest entry, so now you can read that. :)
No, I'm a gemini. Think it changes over around the 21st.
Anyway, have a good night, and good luck for tomorrow and doing your daughter's hair. I bet she's gonna look beautiful! :)
Luv,
Gidge
:)

Written by Gidge, 22. Aug 2005 02:31 AM

Hi Trac,
Thank you i feel like we do share a lot in common we are close in age and have been married for a long time and do suffer from this pain in the arse depression and other such symptms,
I know i need a break i am losing it at everything but i just cant and if i could my son cant be away from me so even finding an hour is impossible he sits on my bed while i am on the toilet even, as he thinks i am going somewhere he cant go to school so is up my skirt twenty four seven not that i wear many of them in fact i think i own two,anyway i really like reading yours and talking to you hope you are ok will try write something soon at the moment i just feel sick and am crying all the time it shits me i wish it would stop.bye love lollxx

Written by loll13888, 22. Aug 2005 11:03 PM

hey trace,
i dont find your entrys boring. i hope getting all the crap out helps to make you feel better. its always good to have a massive bitch before sleep. i think cuz i cant sleep either until i get it out. i wake my b/f up heaps in the middle of the night cuz i cant sleep without having a bitch first :P
housework will get done one day. just sometimes its not the thing on the top of the list. hope this morning went well with your daughters dress up day. have a good one :)
love manda

Written by mandoushh, 23. Aug 2005 12:54 AM