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Hi Tazzy,

I don't know what Don has done, but if you're okay with it and can forgive him then good on you. As long as you're not just forgiving him just so you can stay together. From what you've written, it sounds to me like you're not too sure about your decision to forgive him. You have to be true to yourself. :)

A couple of entries back, you wrote about how your psych told you that you seem to be centering your life around your r/s, or something along those lines. I have to say that I agree with her. If you look back on all your recent entries, t all seem to be centred around him, and what you've been doing together and what YOU haven't been doing when you're not with him.

You need to find some other things/friends to spend your time on that will give you pleasure. It'll not only make you a more balanced & interesting person, it will also give you more to talk about with him and you'll be able to use the time apart from him in a more constructive way. What are you going to do when you finally get a place together and he's off at work?

Please don't take offence, I know what it's like to love someone more than life itself and make them the centre of your universe. I have been guilty of it too, in the past. But I also learnt that you can't live like that. One of the reasons my r/s ended was because he thought I was too boring and I was suffocating him with love because I had nothing else to make me happy. He was right. :)

Instead of sitting at home on your own today, why don't you go for a walk or a drive, get out and meet people, or find something creative to do at home. Start a new hobby or something. Keeping busy will also stop you feeling so lonely too. :)

Take care sweetheart. I hope you find something fun to do. :)

Luv, ((hugz)) & smiles
Gidge
xoxox

Written by Gidge, 13. Nov 2005 03:20 PM