where to from here? still depressed but now i have
Written by
shark79
14. Mar 2005 10:17 PM
where to from here? still depressed but now i have braindamage as well,i pray to God every day for the stregnth i need to continue,although somedays it is as if the whole world is on my back,making it hard to breath,hard to smile and even worse hard to show kindness to others,to my children and to my loving wife.
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Hi i Know things may seem bad at the moment but in
Written by
Beast
13. Apr 2005 06:53 AM
Hi i Know things may seem bad at the moment but in the end if u committ suicide look at your wife and child and just think of how they are going to react.
Your wife wont have a lover, friend and companion if you go, your child wont have a father to talk to, confide in, love or respect.
Also you have to think of the pain theyll go through if you do, i know it may be hard now but just confide in your wife tell her your feelings.
And go to the doctors and go on depression medication, or seek consuelling if thats too expensive find someone you trust and talk to them.
Hopefully i have helped a little its all the advice i can give good luck and look at the life u have you have a beautiful wife and child so feel blessed not depressed
I am really sorry if this has sounded angry like i am just worried about you and your family all the best for you hope u get better.
love beast
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Thanks Shark79, for sharing your thoughts, you
Written by
Chy
1. May 2005 05:17 PM
Thanks Shark79,
for sharing your thoughts, you have brought to the fore the fact that there can be other consequences after a suicide attempt. If you honesty helps one person re-think their temptation you have potentially saved a life.
Let us know how you are going, please.
Chy
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I am in my early fourties, my daughter in her earl
Written by
Tera
11. Jul 2005 08:25 AM
I am in my early fourties, my daughter in her early 20s. Three years ago, her depressed husband took his life. He hung himself while she was in the house. She found him hanging aprox. 20 minutes after he did this. He left behind 2 small children with her. His parents also will never recover, nor will I and my children. Two of my children then considered this an option when things got tough. It leaves a long and forever line of disaster. We are all going to die at sometime, why hurry it at a time when others need you so desparately.
Stupid thing is, he may have gotten over it, and now can never go back, Its too late for him and all of us.
Life is short anyways. And you only get to live once.
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Is this really surviving?
Written by
Deleted_User
14. May 2007 08:18 PM
I have lived through a failed suicide attempt - but luckily I guess, there have been no physical side effects. Mentally though I don't have many days even 10 years later that I don't wish I had succeeded.
I will not try to take my own life again - for one reason only - and that is my children. But when they are no longer with me everyday and eventually start their own families I wonder how I will keep that vow.
If a loved one had cancer or aids or any other illness that meant they were in pain and agony every day, there are not many of us who would not consider euthanasia and wonder why it is not legal, and there are not many of us who would do anything to ease that loved ones pain.
But that is a physical pain, and there is no scale on which we can compare mental pain to that. But what if we could? Isn't ten years of emotional pain and exhuastion enough, how many more doctors and treatments and hospital admissions and medications do I have to endure before it is OK to say - I have had enough. I can't do this anymmore - it is just to painful?
There is no cure for depression, there are only bandaids, and the thing about bandaids - they eventually come off.
So if you know someone who has suicided - do not judge them for leaving behind their loved ones - you would not judge a cancer patient for upping their dose of morphine. Do not think that they didn't think of their loved ones, because they did - but they were so far gone into their mental illness that they truly believed with all their heart that their loved ones were better off without them. Do not judge them for wanting to end their suffering - didn't you to wish their suffering could end.
Only know that they are not in pain anymore and they can finally rest in peace. They did love you, they did want to be with you, they just had a horrible illness called depression - and unfortunately in extreme cases suicide is the final symptom.
I am sorry for the people who have lost a loved one to suicide, as I am sorry for anyone who has lost a loved one - but I am not sorry for the person who died - I am relieved for them and I am envious of them.
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